"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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would you date a girl with these problems?

pipe007

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i believe that the quality of women you attract reflects the inner game, world, life that a man has with himself..

if you always attract women with BPD, then it says something about you, if you always attract women who get abused and cheated on, that says something about you.....

I KNOW THIS, this is why i believe i have a lot of work to do... the girl I'm seeing now has a bunch of problems in her life...

-is a single mom, 1 year old kid,
-kid's dad, her ex, is still around, and they talk, he is the dad.
- she has incredible mood swings and not very emotionally stable
-one day she is all over me, saying I miss you I want you, and calling me 20 times a day, great sex, and out of nowhere, next day she is frozen cold and retreats saying she doesnt want to hurt me...

at this point i just dont react at all, she can say whatever she wants do what she wants, and she always comes back for more of me....

I'm just sick of attracting the wrong kinds of girls, is anyone else has been at this stage and how did you recover, how do you get into attracting better quality women....
at first i thought this was a quality girl, i met her in class, very smart, now she is doing her doctorate in psychology, so i was impressed...
the more i met her, later on i saw all these red flags, but i kinda let those go and kept going.

i learned later on also that she has many guy friends, and is very social and flirty with them, but ofcourse it never escalates with any of them..... do you guys allow this? do you mind? is it healthy to have a woman who is very social and friendly with guy friends.... sometimes in front of you...

sux.... hehe but I think i should just have her as a piece on the side, and move on into finding better quality women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i knowwww, man and she is cuban, knows the game by heart... i just watch how she pulls everything in the book on me, but i try my best not affect me.... but you're right, time to RUN!!!
 

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Time to be off like a prom dress my man...Skirts like that one will get worse as time goes on. RUN RUN AWAY
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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