"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would you date a former fattie?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Unless they've had corrective surgery, they tend to have too much skin, and it's hard to see that until you get them naked.
 

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loose skin like that is a boner killer...if you plan on doing the deed,keep the lights off
 

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SecondHalf said:
For an American woman she is now the average weight! Yes its crazy morbidly obese is still out but being a fattie is accepted in women's circles and among desperate males.

This is the one of the latest meme:

http://weknowmemes.com/2011/10/****-society-this-is-more-attractive-than-this/ (put the four letter f word where it gets censored in the link)

Wow women come in only 2 body type!:rolleyes: you either accept some fattie with thunder thighs or a skeleton.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talking about being 'determined' and sh*it... What I don't understand about these people is: if I'd be even close to be half as fat as she's now (AFTER the weight loss), I'd be working and dieting my ass off. How do people let it come so far?
 

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DJDamage said:
For an American woman she is now the average weight! Yes its crazy morbidly obese is still out but being a fattie is accepted in women's circles and among desperate males.

This is the one of the latest meme:

http://weknowmemes.com/2011/10/****-society-this-is-more-attractive-than-this/ (put the four letter f word where it gets censored in the link)

Wow women come in only 2 body type!:rolleyes: you either accept some fattie with thunder thighs or a skeleton.
I agree with the picture.
However, I'd rather the skinny one in the picture over the Holstein in the video unless body sliding is my thing.

One of the problems with a former fattie is the diet restrictions you are burdened with. The low carb female complicates things if you cook.
You're limited with restaurants (many Italian, many Asian have nothing for her).

Personally, I'll only date jocks. Has some downsides but their body's are hard and they can move their own furniture.

SH
 

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I dated 2 fatties once....never again. Lesson Learned.
 
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Yes I would. As long as she is motivated. Some girls have lost weight and are motivated to keep it off.
 

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DJDamage said:
For an American woman she is now the average weight! Yes its crazy morbidly obese is still out but being a fattie is accepted in women's circles and among desperate males.

This is the one of the latest meme:

http://weknowmemes.com/2011/10/****-society-this-is-more-attractive-than-this/ (put the four letter f word where it gets censored in the link)

Wow women come in only 2 body type!:rolleyes: you either accept some fattie with thunder thighs or a skeleton.
Um. that link is correct sir. I'd take a curvy marylin monroe than a crack head. what I won't take is the woman in the original post. monroe looks like a normal woman, the other two extremes I'll pass on.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Date, sure.

Marry/LTR, probably not.

I do like curvy chicks tho, not more than 20 or so lbs overweight however. Enough to tap that vanilla pudding :p
 

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pdx1138 said:
I dated 2 fatties once....never again. Lesson Learned.
Maybe it was just one fattie and you thought it was two.
 

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I would date her. My usual method is to roll her in flour and then find a wrinkle to stick it in.
 

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San Jose California said:
so the boobs have tons of visible excess skin? could you show a pic to give me an idea?
Not just the boobs, it's everywhere, like a thin chick who lives in the skin of a fat chick. Wherever you grab her, you get a handful of skin.
 

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This girl doesn't have a waistline... she has an equator.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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San Jose California said:
so the boobs have tons of visible excess skin? could you show a pic to give me an idea?
Here's a woman before and after surgery to cut away the excess skin.
I've actually seen a lot worse than this (on TV, not in real life):

http://asps.confex.com/asps/2004am/techprogram/paper_5721.htm

This can happen to guys too. Here's a picture of a guy.
Scroll down a bit and there's another picture of a woman:

http://thegastricbaypass-surgery.com/tag/the-removal-of-excess-skin/
 

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Did you see the trousers she was used to wear? she should donate them to the air ballon association so they wont be wasted, the circus as well could need a new roof.

No seriously she should have a personalized plate to put on her back, but not a car one, considered the size a firetrack one would fit better,also a sign with the speed limit for safety reasons.
 

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The last time I checked, 586-282=286lbs. She is still a fattie.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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