I've been dating this girl for almost a year now. My family doesn't like her at all. Every conversation with them turns into an argument about her. I feel really bad breaking it off with her because she's a sweet girl and she didn't do anything wrong. How should I handle this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Would you break up with someone if your family didn't approve?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I feel for you dude, I had this exact same problem.
While what your family thinks is important, what YOU think is much more so. They dont spend as much time as you do with her. They dont know her like you do, so they aren't in a position to judge like you are.
Just make sure that you judge objectively, and do whats best FOR YOU.
While what your family thinks is important, what YOU think is much more so. They dont spend as much time as you do with her. They dont know her like you do, so they aren't in a position to judge like you are.
Just make sure that you judge objectively, and do whats best FOR YOU.
I'm honestly tired of hearing it from them. I really think it would be best to end it now before it gets any further and she ends up gets more hurt down the road. She already knows there's tension with the family. I just have to figure out how to go about doing this in the least painful way possible, which is going to be hard.
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What country are you from?
Why do they think such?
Is this for marriage?
Why do they think such?
Is this for marriage?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
WaterTiger
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In the long run it's your decision , not your family's. I am also curious about what this girl has done to piss off your family so badly.
id ont know the fully story but i bet you his familyi thinks she's a bad influence...
is she ****ing up something in your life? there's a lot you're not telling us...
remember, family will always be there for you... always.. can you say the same thing for her?
it all depends on the reasons behind the tension...
is she ****ing up something in your life? there's a lot you're not telling us...
remember, family will always be there for you... always.. can you say the same thing for her?
it all depends on the reasons behind the tension...
What do your friends say? If they are telling you the same thing, then I'd seriously consider getting rid of her.
Had that once before, when I broke up with a gf and all my family and friends came out afterwards and said "I'm so glad you broke up with her..." My response was "Why the fvck didn't you tell me this before then?!?"
Had that once before, when I broke up with a gf and all my family and friends came out afterwards and said "I'm so glad you broke up with her..." My response was "Why the fvck didn't you tell me this before then?!?"
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If you want to see the girl and your family don't like it, tell em to get fvcked, they don't control your life, you do. :yes:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.