Would you become a "regular" to meet a girl?

[leoncour]

I was wondering if you saw an attractive girl where she worked, such as a restaraunt or a coffee shop, and you knew she was single, would you become a regular, going back several times over a period of weeks, trying to establish a rapport and then asking for the number? Or is it wrong to persue a girl while she is at work? Thanks for any insight.

 

[Desdinova]

Why waste days, weeks, and months to build rapport? You can build it within a few minutes. Chat with her for a bit, go do something else. Chat with her for a bit, go do something else. Chat and number close, then leave.

This is my favorite strategy. It's effective, and it works.

 

[Le Parisien]

I was wondering if you saw an attractive girl where she worked, such as a restaraunt or a coffee shop, and you knew she was single, would you become a regular, going back several times over a period of weeks, trying to establish a rapport and then asking for the number? Or is it wrong to persue a girl while she is at work? Thanks for any insight.

I can't give you a direct answer, but please answer this:

If you do become a regular, and it turns out that she has a BF or she's totally not interested by you, basically it doesn't work out the way you wanted. Would you feel like "Damn, that was a pure waste of time, energy and money" or more like "too bad it didn't work out, but at least I genuinely liked the food, drinks, place; so it's not that bad"?

By now you already got my answer right?

Just one last point: like many people have pointed out here before, trying to pick up a chick when it's actually her job to get money out of your pocket (sure, here we are only talking about a waitress, not a stripper) is generally not a good idea. But hey give it a try if you feel like it.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

No. That's a disingenuous attempt to identify with a woman.

 

[leoncour]

No. That's a disingenuous attempt to identify with a woman.

What does that mean? Are you saying I should be more direct with my intentions? Ask for her number on the first visit?

 

[NorPacWolf]

I'm a regular at many places. If you like the vibe, or the food and/or the coffee, there's nothing wrong with becoming a regular. If you think the food is abysmal, as are the drinks and the energy level is pathetic enough to put you to sleep, then I would try to close the girl at the first opportunity.

Wolf

I was wondering if you saw an attractive girl where she worked, such as a restaraunt or a coffee shop, and you knew she was single, would you become a regular, going back several times over a period of weeks, trying to establish a rapport and then asking for the number? Or is it wrong to persue a girl while she is at work? Thanks for any insight.

 

[realsmoothie]

Women are more difficult to pick up at work because they're in "work" mode. They have their shields up, and are in a place in which they feel comfortable.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

What does that mean? Are you saying I should be more direct with my intentions? Ask for her number on the first visit?

What I'm saying is read this thread.

 

[Slevin]

I was wondering if you saw an attractive girl where she worked, such as a restaraunt or a coffee shop, and you knew she was single, would you become a regular, going back several times over a period of weeks, trying to establish a rapport and then asking for the number? Or is it wrong to persue a girl while she is at work? Thanks for any insight.

You've been here for over 4 years, have almost 300 posts and you have to ask this question?