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Would you be comfortable with your woman having sleep overs with a gay guy she is emotionally intimate with?

GoldenArrow

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By emotionally intimate, I mean she feels she can share everything with him (including stuff about you), she goes to his place with just him and no one else, and the two of them cook, stay up late, watch a movie together etc.
On top of that, she wishes to have sleep overs with him like at least twice a month.
Let's assume he is gay and not bi. Would you feel comfortable? If not, where would you draw the line?
 

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Speculator E

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No dude. She's cheating on you. Gay, bi, or not anything can happen when a girl and guy are alone.
The sleep overs are just weird. It's like she think she can disrespect you that easily.
I wouldn't trust what she said.
 

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[QUOTE="GoldenArrow, post: 2698448, member: 149319”]
Would you feel comfortable?

If not, where would you draw the line? [/QUOTE]

NO

The no go line would happen the minute she said that.
A man, gay, bi, or not, and I would doubt that line of trash from her, is obviously still capable of having sex biologically.
 

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I would say that whatever she is saying, she doesn't consider the relationship as meaning all that much. Certainly within a relationship of being steady/engaged/married, sleeping over is unacceptable. Going shopping together might be OK, but I'd like to see how much of a flamer the homo is before feeling good about it. Of course, typically when a woman has a strong "friends" relationship with a homo, she's a bit out there to begin with.
 

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cheating is anything the girl does that she does not want you so know about or see. tell her if nothing is happening, that your coming along also to have fun. if she declines to have you join, tell her no. if she insists, walk. there is NO case where you allow girl to priority other guy of any sort.
 

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Lol fuk no. Not into dating a phag hag
 

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I would encourage her to do so, wait untill you pass your mid 30s then you will notice once your ego in under control how blessful would be a contender to take away drama from yoru life and even allow you some free time.

A sleepover only? please have a weekend trip togheter so on monday you wont need me to give you unlimited attention and listen any female fabricated problem.

If I had a big villa I would even give the guy a spare room to take care of her on saturday afternoon when she is in the mood for shopping.
 

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Okay... if you are 'dating' a woman she will know what bothers you and what does not.. if she does something you DON'T like then you turn on the ride is almost over. Having 'sleep-overs' is something I stopped doing when I was a teenager... But chicks keep doing this into their 40s with their girlfriends... I think it's silly... but then again a lot of what chicks do is silly.

But if this bothers you, do yourself a favor and just walk away. You're not going to stop her from doing sh!t that bothers you... so just take the hint and dump her. You don't need to be a @ss about it, but understand if you walk away from her it will be your fault... you will get blamed... and that's okay... chicks never take responsibility for their actions. It's like ripping off a band-aide, do it quick and get it over with... much better than prolonging the pain.
 

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If you're going to approach this with her, there's no 100% method in your favor, but my thoughts below might offer some food for thought.

--- How many men plan sleepovers with a pal and twice a month? (an incidental of being too drunk to drive home doesn't count)
--- How many heterosexual women plan sleep overs twice a month with their best female friend?

--- If she can emotionally cheat with a gay man and it's not "cheating" ... Is it okay for you to physically cheat with a lesbian woman and it's also not "cheating?"
 

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