Panda 2000
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You mean at once? Sure.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You're talking about something completely different (a LTR), these guys are just talking about "banging." I'll even venture a guess that you didn't marry her when she was 17 either.Warboss Alex said:I went with a 17 yo.. I was 22 at the time. No regrets at all; I ended up marrying her.![]()
i hear what you're saying. several times i've chatted w/ girls who looked like they were in college.. and then i find out they're in high schooldisciple said:I can tell you guys one thing. You have to be very careful out here because girls are physically maturing much earlier than they were several years ago.
I remember back when I was in middle school and high school if there were 25 kids in a class there was maybe 2-3 girls that were REALLY physically mature looking (a$$ and tits). All the guys were chasing the same 2 or 3 chicks. The rest were either not mature looking or most were somewhere in between.
Nowadays? Sh*t, the number of physically mature ones is probably closer to 12-13 in a class of 25 kids.
Sometimes I'd love to be 17 again for a week or two.
On the real, I remember one time awhile back I was standing at a bus stop and I started up a conversation with this cute chick standing next to me.
Everything was going cool but then I started talking about some topic and she kinda looked like she didn't know what the f*ck I was talking about (if she had been in her twenties she should have known).
I can't even remember the topic but all I remember is she just smiled and didn't say anything like she was hoping I'd change the subject.
This got my mental radar up and I asked her how old she was.
She said something like is that a problem.
I put on a straight face and said not at all I was just curious.
Then she said she was 16.
I thought she was 20 or 21 but nothing lower than 19.
All I could think to myself was like ain't this some sh*t.
I continued to talk in a polite way so I didn't come off like an a$$hole but that was the end of that for me. I could tell she could sense something was wrong and we ended our conversation shortly after that.
You gotta be careful because the old saying is true, " 15 will get ya 20".
no, but not too long afterwards.Francisco d'Anconia said:You're talking about something completely different (a LTR), these guys are just talking about "banging." I'll even venture a guess that you didn't marry her when she was 17 either.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I used to listen to an advice that says that you should divide your age by 2 and add 7 and that is the youngest age you can date. If you believe in age differences you should use that example. Personally I am 27 and if I meet a nice 18 year old, I am going to go for it.Morphiex said:heres the table i sorta created in my mind for people :
your 16 then you should only date girls that are min. 15 age.
17 - 15
18 - 16
19 - 16
20 - 17
21 - 18
25 - 19
30 - 21
35 - 25
40 - 28
You guys are so set on trying to be right by skewing the parameters. You may be 24 but we were discussing guys who are over 30. You bring up an 18+ year old and we are talking about minors who are under 18. You guys are working so hard to justify yourselves you are completely ignoring the specifics of the topic.Sicarius said:Come on, Frisco, if I, at 24, talk to a 18+ girl in a low, sexy voice that I want a real, meaningful connection, that it may not be with everyone but I'm fine so long as in the end I meet someone different and special and she looks at me with big doe eyes and says please God let this be real - that is not predatory, but arbitrary age restriction is?
Why am I not convinced?
AmenSkel said:Id **** anything thats legal. IM 28 and I dont give a ****. If 15 was legal Id **** it. But its not so I dont.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
crab101 said:Man you guys are nasty,and pervets they need to do a NBC on this on,where they were cathing online predators who were liek 34years and wanted girls 15 and younger to "bang".So dude dont lower your age,I mean heck you might aswell lower it to 12,which is nasty but good luck when you go to JAIL.Im pretty sure older men will like younger boys![]()
There was a guy in my school (When I was still at school) that went out with a string of 14 year olds when he was 17. I have never seen someone go from regular popularity to absolute sewer level so fast. He could not walk about school without getting crap from people.mpimpin said:Amen
I'm 17 right now and my philosophy up until recently was never go younger then two years as a teenager.... But I've found there to be some really hot azz 14 yr olds these days. So I lowered my age to late 14 yr olds.
KillaCam said:There was a guy in my school (When I was still at school) that went out with a string of 14 year olds when he was 17. I have never seen someone go from regular popularity to absolute sewer level so fast. He could not walk about school without getting crap from people.
It's a choice you make I guess, but..anyone can get a 14 year old. It's like shooting fish in a fvcking barrel for gods sake. Where's the challenge? And what are the positives? They are too tight, you can't have an intellectual conversation, people will look down on you.
It's just the allure of being in control of someone. In some peoples minds, being an older counterpart to an un-wise female creates a sense of domination. A domination you probably wouldn't get if you bothered to go for someone of your own age.
I sure as hell know, all of my chick mates (yes, my age) would look down on a guy who's trying to mack 14 year olds.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.