"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would LTR with a woman that makes more money than me work?

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I'm never taking stimulants to study again... between that and the stress this was probably the lamest sounding post I've ever made
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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If it is causing you this much concern without the mention of you being excited or proud of her possible success then "no," it probably won't work.
 
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fYea this post sucked too, disregard it.
 
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how old are you dude?

it really sounds like you're way young and you're worrying about this way way way way too early.

you're probably not even going to be with her then..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All right lightyear, from the first post, the part about you being worried about someone else taking her interst from you sounds like the beginnings of a possible jealousy issue. Be careful of that. As to the financial thing, yes sometimes it helps to be the one that brings in more money, but if it comes down to winning an argument and winning respect just by how much you make, that is a pretty pathetic relationship. If she likes you enough, and you are worthwhile enough, she will stay with you most of the time no matter where she goes, although LDRs are usually bad ideas.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Buzz
...As far as me not mentioning my excitement for her and everything else, I just didn't feel like writing a 10pg message that nobody wanted to take the time to read.
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Point taken...

Originally posted by Buzz
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Basically I am dating (LTR, mutual love) a younger girl, we are both in college, and she is going to be a lawyer (and I doubt highly she wont be) while I am planning on an MBA and a career where I will probably make only half what she does in the financial industry. Don't get me wrong, I think it rocks that she is going to have a kick @ss career, I'm just concerned about how it could effect me...
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There, how's that?:D
 
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you scared she leave you for other man

no

you have issue with self. you call "inner"

i say fix self first.

what is all this about lose "power"? relationship is not game or struggle. you have not power to lose. every thing you see is how you see.

you think lose power then you lose power. but i no lose power to lady love me. because i no think like that.

mind is strong. you have weak mind now. that is your issue with self. fix self. then relationship is ok.

i think you think too much. man is action no think too much.

have more confidence.

hope that help you.
 
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Originally posted by PurplePimp
you scared she leave you for other man

no

you have issue with self. you call "inner"

i say fix self first.

what is all this about lose "power"? relationship is not game or struggle. you have not power to lose. every thing you see is how you see.

you think lose power then you lose power. but i no lose power to lady love me. because i no think like that.

mind is strong. you have weak mind now. that is your issue with self. fix self. then relationship is ok.

i think you think too much. man is action no think too much.

have more confidence.

hope that help you.
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TROLL!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Purple Pimp speaks like Yoda!!!
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To the question:
If you are secure with yourself, if you don't involve your ego then the relationship can work.

I would really like the situation you are in. Not that I'm lazy, but I'd rather have the women work and I stay at home.ü If her money can support the both of us that is.

Well, if you let your pride get over you then you would lose the girl and then she still has higher pay than you (and you not enjoying it ). You won't gain anything by losing her. Except maybe "self-respect".
 
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Put it this way

My brother is married & now has a kid with his wife of a few years, & they've been together since 1999.

My brother cuts concrete for a living. His wife is a manager of a bank... Says it all really

Attraction has close to f*ck all to do with your income
 
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Attraction has close to f*ck all to do with your income
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BINGO!!!

after my girl has our child..I will probably take off work when she gets a job..so I can get my baechelors in a yr instead of 2 yrs....

infact it was her idea..because her degree will pay her about 15K more then I make now..and I make pretty good coin...

real love goes well beyond money.

she knows ur situation..she loves you for you nothing else..dont mess this up :)!
 
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