"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Would LTR with a woman that makes more money than me work?

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I'm never taking stimulants to study again... between that and the stress this was probably the lamest sounding post I've ever made
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If it is causing you this much concern without the mention of you being excited or proud of her possible success then "no," it probably won't work.
 

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fYea this post sucked too, disregard it.
 
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how old are you dude?

it really sounds like you're way young and you're worrying about this way way way way too early.

you're probably not even going to be with her then..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All right lightyear, from the first post, the part about you being worried about someone else taking her interst from you sounds like the beginnings of a possible jealousy issue. Be careful of that. As to the financial thing, yes sometimes it helps to be the one that brings in more money, but if it comes down to winning an argument and winning respect just by how much you make, that is a pretty pathetic relationship. If she likes you enough, and you are worthwhile enough, she will stay with you most of the time no matter where she goes, although LDRs are usually bad ideas.
 

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Originally posted by Buzz
...As far as me not mentioning my excitement for her and everything else, I just didn't feel like writing a 10pg message that nobody wanted to take the time to read.
Point taken...

Originally posted by Buzz
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Basically I am dating (LTR, mutual love) a younger girl, we are both in college, and she is going to be a lawyer (and I doubt highly she wont be) while I am planning on an MBA and a career where I will probably make only half what she does in the financial industry. Don't get me wrong, I think it rocks that she is going to have a kick @ss career, I'm just concerned about how it could effect me...
There, how's that?:D
 

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you scared she leave you for other man

no

you have issue with self. you call "inner"

i say fix self first.

what is all this about lose "power"? relationship is not game or struggle. you have not power to lose. every thing you see is how you see.

you think lose power then you lose power. but i no lose power to lady love me. because i no think like that.

mind is strong. you have weak mind now. that is your issue with self. fix self. then relationship is ok.

i think you think too much. man is action no think too much.

have more confidence.

hope that help you.
 

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Originally posted by PurplePimp
you scared she leave you for other man

no

you have issue with self. you call "inner"

i say fix self first.

what is all this about lose "power"? relationship is not game or struggle. you have not power to lose. every thing you see is how you see.

you think lose power then you lose power. but i no lose power to lady love me. because i no think like that.

mind is strong. you have weak mind now. that is your issue with self. fix self. then relationship is ok.

i think you think too much. man is action no think too much.

have more confidence.

hope that help you.
TROLL!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Purple Pimp speaks like Yoda!!!
:D

To the question:
If you are secure with yourself, if you don't involve your ego then the relationship can work.

I would really like the situation you are in. Not that I'm lazy, but I'd rather have the women work and I stay at home.ü If her money can support the both of us that is.

Well, if you let your pride get over you then you would lose the girl and then she still has higher pay than you (and you not enjoying it ). You won't gain anything by losing her. Except maybe "self-respect".
 

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Put it this way

My brother is married & now has a kid with his wife of a few years, & they've been together since 1999.

My brother cuts concrete for a living. His wife is a manager of a bank... Says it all really

Attraction has close to f*ck all to do with your income
 

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Attraction has close to f*ck all to do with your income

BINGO!!!

after my girl has our child..I will probably take off work when she gets a job..so I can get my baechelors in a yr instead of 2 yrs....

infact it was her idea..because her degree will pay her about 15K more then I make now..and I make pretty good coin...

real love goes well beyond money.

she knows ur situation..she loves you for you nothing else..dont mess this up :)!
 
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