"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Would it be AFC to do this?
- Thread starter ARrocket
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
The Deacon said:Ah. Social proof makes women 100x more receptive to your advances. .
Amen
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
I don't think you even have to go that far. My high school prom date and I never even hung outside of high school (before the prom date). Just don't accompany those approval-seeking behaviors mentioned here in your future interactions with her:So the general consensus seems to be that I should get her outside of school, continue to amplify her attraction for me, and then ask her to the prom. Right?
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-gam...25-points.html
Hell, you won't be breaking any rules if you ask her to prom tomorrow. Put on your damn nikes and just do it. Since she's cute, some other dude might scoop her up pretty soon if you don't take action.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
I see your logic. However, this raises another question. Let's say I ask her to the prom tomorrow, and she accepts. Then what? Prom is 6 weeks away! Doesn't it seem kinda weird to ask her on a date AFTER asking her to prom? Or am I just over analyzing?The Deacon said:I don't think you even have to go that far. My high school prom date and I never even hung outside of high school (before the prom date). Just don't accompany those approval-seeking behaviors mentioned here in your future interactions with her:
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-gam...25-points.html
Hell, you won't be breaking any rules if you ask her to prom tomorrow. Put on your damn nikes and just do it. Since she's cute, some other dude might scoop her up pretty soon if you don't take action.
Do you get what I'm saying?
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Yeah I think I will do that. Thanks man, you've helped a lot. If I knew how to rate postings I'd rate yours lol.The Deacon said:I see what you're saying, and your point is pretty valid. You can sidestep that issue by asking her out on a date and then asking her to prom on your date. That way you can transition into a dating relationship pretty easily and have a date for prom.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
I don't think so.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Say: "Come to prom with me if you want to live."