"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Would it be AFC to do this?
- Thread starter ARrocket
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
The Deacon said:Ah. Social proof makes women 100x more receptive to your advances. .
Amen
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
I don't think you even have to go that far. My high school prom date and I never even hung outside of high school (before the prom date). Just don't accompany those approval-seeking behaviors mentioned here in your future interactions with her:So the general consensus seems to be that I should get her outside of school, continue to amplify her attraction for me, and then ask her to the prom. Right?
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-gam...25-points.html
Hell, you won't be breaking any rules if you ask her to prom tomorrow. Put on your damn nikes and just do it. Since she's cute, some other dude might scoop her up pretty soon if you don't take action.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
I see your logic. However, this raises another question. Let's say I ask her to the prom tomorrow, and she accepts. Then what? Prom is 6 weeks away! Doesn't it seem kinda weird to ask her on a date AFTER asking her to prom? Or am I just over analyzing?The Deacon said:I don't think you even have to go that far. My high school prom date and I never even hung outside of high school (before the prom date). Just don't accompany those approval-seeking behaviors mentioned here in your future interactions with her:
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-gam...25-points.html
Hell, you won't be breaking any rules if you ask her to prom tomorrow. Put on your damn nikes and just do it. Since she's cute, some other dude might scoop her up pretty soon if you don't take action.
Do you get what I'm saying?
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Yeah I think I will do that. Thanks man, you've helped a lot. If I knew how to rate postings I'd rate yours lol.The Deacon said:I see what you're saying, and your point is pretty valid. You can sidestep that issue by asking her out on a date and then asking her to prom on your date. That way you can transition into a dating relationship pretty easily and have a date for prom.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
I don't think so.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Say: "Come to prom with me if you want to live."