"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would a girl lie about having a boyfriend to "test" you?

sharpshooter

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This happened to me once and it all started at a club. I was dancing with a girl and out of the blue her girlfriend told me that she had a boyfriend. I continued dancing with her, then afterwards I asked her if she did and she nodded yes (not in a confident way though). Later on that night we were chatting and she said before I go let's exchange numbers. A few days later she called me and mentioned she didn't have a boyfriend. We arranged a date for the next day, and I saw her for a couple of weeks before breaking it off. She seemed more interested in me than I was in her. I asked her numerous times why she nodded yes when I asked if she had a boyfriend that night and she always beat around the bush. To this day i'm still a little confused over that entire situation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jakethasnake

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Originally posted by rgeere
Sometimes girl's will say they have boyfriends to weed the losers out that hit on them.


True. But how to determine whether she's doing it coz she has ZERO interest and is trying to brush you off, or because she likes you, but is giving you the first round of prelimiary shyt-tests to see if you're upto snuff? Mmmm? :confused: ;)
 

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Think about it this way, would you tell a girl you were interested in that you had a girlfriend?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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comic_relief

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yes, I have had this happen to me and a girl come clean that she was lying to me to just get rid of me.

Check out Crazykid's site and my first journal entry to read about it.

Journal entry for July 18, 2004
 

Fatality

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Is it possible that a girl would lie about having a boyfriend to make you jealous and make you like her more?
 

rgeere

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Originally posted by Fatality
Is it possible that a girl would lie about having a boyfriend to make you jealous and make you like her more?
Yes, there have been examples of girls doing that as well...

It's like I said, girls have a more fluent motive for saying things and you can't take them for face value at a consistent level. There can be all sorts of diffrent meanings for what a girls says.
 

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Originally posted by rgeere
Girl's arn't guys. Just because basically all men who tell a girl this do it for the same reasoning doesn't mean girls say it for the same set of reasons.
Yes but the point I'm trying to make is, the only reason they would tell you they had a bf is to show a IOD (Indicator of Disintrest).
 

rgeere

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Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
Yes but the point I'm trying to make is, the only reason they would tell you they had a bf is to show a IOD (Indicator of Disintrest).
That all depends, there have been girls who have said that to guys who they were interested in as a challenge to their approach.

Though with these girls it becomes obvious afterwards that they are really interested because they don't normally let the guy slip away without a conversation or contact information.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Don_Marko

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Maybe true....may not
Doesn't really matter... check out fastseduction.com or pickupguide.com for ways to get around it and handle situation properly.
 
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