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BlueAlpha, in your other thread you inferred that you have been a waiter for a few years. How much do you make per hour?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Bro, either put in this thread or PM me more about what you are looking to do for your Career. I'm going to outline a plan to get you to a solid $50k per year. Once you get to $50k per year, you will then have the tools, resources, and knowledge to strive to get to that 6 figure level, HOWEVER....making $50k per year in a decent cost of living area with no kids is a GOOD living.Yup. And watching vids online of people from other continents venting about the same things is scary. There must be an intercontinental manual for how they design these sweatshops. They could make a horror movie about these places.
One thing I learned that can be helpful, do not trust your wireless provider. Read your bill like a hawk, record conversations, and know when you're being upsold. On the other hand, be nice to the person who answers the phone. You'd be surprised how far they're willing to go if you're gentle after they get abused all day.
Depends where you live. In larger metropolitan cities, 50k/yr. makes you a pauper. In Flint, where you are from, 50k/yr. makes you a millionaire.Don't let these folks on here who claim they are millionaires (and have shown no proof of it) discourage you into thinking there's anything wrong with $50,000.
The measurement I'm using is based on a national measurement. I also mentioned that you want to make sure you are in a decent cost of living area.Depends where you live. In larger metropolitan cities, 50k/yr. makes you a pauper. In Flint, where you are from, 50k/yr. makes you a millionaire.
Shoot big or go home (with your tail between your legs).
Well let's do some math. Average condo in Manhattan last year cost 2 mil.The measurement I'm using is based on a national measurement. I also mentioned that you want to make sure you are in a decent cost of living area.
If you are living near Manhattan, to be "middle class", you need to make at least $130,000 per year as an individual give or take.
And I would like for you to provide more details to guys here on how to get BIG, instead of generic advice of "shoot big or go home"........and if guys here are just too lazy and that's why they aren't a millionaire lol.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
$2 million? Hell I have to look up property in that area, but yes, I do know that if you live in a HIGH cost of living area like NYC, portions of Cali, etc., then it distorts your purchasing power.Well let's do some math. Average condo in Manhattan last year cost 2 mil.
So, let's put 200k down (10%) and take a mortgage of 1.9mil (estimated 100k closing costs) at 4.25%, 30 year amortization or $9,347 monthly. Monthly HOA/maintenance on the condo is at least 2,000 monthly and taxes of $600 monthly totaling $9,347+$2,000+600= $11,947 monthly for the total condo expense.
Now let's add groceries ($400), utilities ($400), auto insurance ($200), auto (min $500), and garage (garage in Manhattan costs 1,000 monthly) and spending money ($1,000). Now we are at a minimum $3,500 monthly + $11,947 for the condo totaling approx 15,500 monthly.
That's $15,500 monthly after tax income. Let's use a 30% total tax bracket due to the mortgage write offs, so pre-tax income must be at least $22,142 monthly or $265,714 annual. Herein is your average Manhattan earner who owns a small condo.
Yes, cost of living is low but the trade off is less opportunity and less networking. In a metropolitan city, where the average established couple has net worths exceeding 1MM+, becoming a millionaire is relatively easy--and expected.I'm over here in a suburb of Michigan, with some of the top rated schools in the country, VERY low crime, good business climate, less than 3% of black people stay here (sorry, usually when it's majority black people in an area, you have a shytty area), and I'm surrounded with good business minded/peaceful people. I'm getting all of this PLUS, the cost of living in the area is pretty LOW. It's a win-win all the way around!
No, it completely depends on what industry you are in.Yes, cost of living is low but the trade off is less opportunity and less networking.
What lol? Let me break this down:In a metropolitan city, where the average established couple has net worths exceeding 1MM+, becoming a millionaire is relatively easy--and expected.
When you are in MI where average cost of a house is less than 100k, and median income is less than 50k, it's extremely difficult to reach 7-figure status unless you transact business solely with larger metropolitan cities.
Your link was for New York City which comprises Staten Island (low), Bronx (low), Brooklyn (up & coming), Queens (up and coming), and Manhattan.- I'm in the Sterling Heights, Michigan area. Here's the demographics of the city http://www.city-data.com/city/Sterling-Heights-Michigan.html and here's the Cost of Living Index http://www.bestplaces.net/cost_of_living/city/michigan/sterling_heights. Average cost of living would be a "100" on the index, Sterling Heights is a 97, which means it's a low cost of living area. Also notice the median household income is $61,809.
- In New York, New York (the big city you are referring to) the demographics of the city are here http://www.city-data.com/city/New-York-New-York.html and the Cost of Living Index is here http://www.bestplaces.net/cost_of_living/city/new_york/new_york. You will notice a "180" for New York's cost of living index, which means it's a HIGH AS HELL cost of living area. But you will also notice from the demographics that the median household income is $55,752.
Your cited ranking was in 2010-2014, post-recession. Real estate prices in some areas tripled here the last few years; meaning many 600-700k properties are worth close to 2 mil. Entirely different ballpark today than in 2010-2014. Pull recent statistics in "Manhattan" and see for yourself.This report here is a good source for national millionaires breakdown: http://phoenixmi.com/wp-content/upl...onaires-By-State-Ranking-2010-2014.pdf?5da317
Michigan has about 180,000 millionaires while New York has over 400,000 but New York does have just about over double the population.
- Sure, here's the Manhattan demographics: http://www.city-data.com/city/Manhattan-New-York.htmlYour link was for New York City which comprises Staten Island (low), Bronx (low), Brooklyn (up & coming), Queens (up and coming), and Manhattan.
Pull statistics on Manhattan alone, which I was referring to, and you will see a huge disparity.
Because the cost of living is high as hell, but middle class in Manhattan can be a guy making about $120k - $150k per year as an individual. He is middle class but it might not be as "comfortable".Median income is the middle number among an array of residents in a region but median income does not represent middle-class as in Manhattan the disparity of income is significant. Instead, we could define middle-class as the cost of living averagely in an area, which I've shown you to be over 250k/yr. in Manhattan.
I already answered this, it depends on what INDUSTRY and what SECTOR you operate in. You act as if everybody in NYC is flipping Real Estate and are millionaires? I just posted the demographics for NYC as a whole, which has an 180 cost of living index with only a $55,000 median income which is BAD. Then I posted Manhattan, which has a $75k median income but a 260 cost of living index, which is BAD.Further what investment opportunities does MI present to create massive wealth: I can go buy a piece of R/E for 2 or 3 mil, and flip in a few years for a 200-300k profit in a bad investment here. What are you going to do in Michigan to create wealth? I'm all ears?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Let's take the following array of numbers:- Sure, here's the Manhattan demographics: http://www.city-data.com/city/Manhattan-New-York.html
- Here's the Manhattan Cost of Living Index: http://www.bestplaces.net/cost_of_living/city/new_york/manhattan
Median income in Manhattan is $75,000 which is NOT THAT significantly better than Sterling Heights, MI at about $62,000. But get this, Manhattan's cost of living index is 260, which makes it one of the HIGHEST COST OF LIVING AREAS IN THE COUNTRY, without any significant difference in median income.
Middle class in Manhattan is over 250k/yr! This is further collaborated by this article.Well let's do some math. Average condo in Manhattan last year cost 2 mil.
So, let's put 200k down (10%) and take a mortgage of 1.9mil (estimated 100k closing costs) at 4.25%, 30 year amortization or $9,347 monthly. Monthly HOA/maintenance on the condo is at least 2,000 monthly and taxes of $600 monthly totaling $9,347+$2,000+600= $11,947 monthly for the total condo expense.
Now let's add groceries ($400), utilities ($400), auto insurance ($200), auto (min $500), and garage (garage in Manhattan costs 1,000 monthly) and spending money ($1,000). Now we are at a minimum $3,500 monthly + $11,947 for the condo totaling approx 15,500 monthly.
That's $15,500 monthly after tax income. Let's use a 30% total tax bracket due to the mortgage write offs, so pre-tax income must be at least $22,142 monthly or $265,714 annual. Herein is your average Manhattan earner who owns a small condo.
Documented facts. Let's take a look.Tenacity said:I already answered this, it depends on what INDUSTRY and what SECTOR you operate in. You act as if everybody in NYC is flipping Real Estate and are millionaires? I just posted the demographics for NYC as a whole, which has an 180 cost of living index with only a $55,000 median income which is BAD. Then I posted Manhattan, which has a $75k median income but a 260 cost of living index, which is BAD.
But if the industry and sector you work in only operates or is only HOT in NYC, or Manhattan, then I guess you have no choice. But this notion that you move to NYC or Manhattan "in general" and it becomes "easier" to become a millionaire, is just insane logic that's not backed up by ANY facts, stats, nor reports.
Sir, at no point in time did I state that "median income" equates to Middle Class.Let's take the following array of numbers:
1, 1, 1, 1, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 10, 10, 10, 20, 20, 20, 40, 40, 40, 40
The median number is 2.
This array is representative of Manhattan's earners. The median does not define the middle class.
It's nice that you are involved in real estate flip deals, I'm not, so it really doesn't matter. Also I wouldn't argue that Michigan properties are completely shyt when it comes to appreciation.Next topic, after you acknowledge real estate is garbage for appreciation in your state
Dude, once again, it depends on the INDUSTRY and SECTOR you are operating in, to determine which region of the country is going to be "booming" with jobs/opportunities within the particular industry and sector.are businesses and how businesses in Manhattan dwarf businesses in Michigan, overall, and thus less growth potential and opportunity in commerce/sales for your S/E business.
You're arguing just to argue. That's fruitless and pointless.Come on Tenacity. I expect stronger contentions from you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I disagree to the extent that sometimes, especially in the beginning of your journey, you will have to engage employment that you are not entirely fond of but which pays well, which you can later spring off of into other areas that are more to your liking.The worst job = the job you don't like doing
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, everybody move to NYC where the cost of living is high as hell, BUT the chance of you making significantly more there to account for the higher cost of living (compared to living in a low or average cost of living area) is very slim to none.I encourage all to move to highly-populated metropolitan cities, take advantage of the real-estate and much higher middle-class income, build a strong net worth, and retire in the suburbs with a Pina Colada.
In all due fairness, in the POF thread, 9Volt trolled me, with entire straw arguments. I literally cut and paste "Show me where I said," and "More antagonist words" 16 times before he got warned. No substantive arguments there. FYI, 9volt is 19 years old.Yes, ladies and gentlemen, everybody move to NYC where the cost of living is high as hell, BUT the chance of you making significantly more there to account for the higher cost of living (compared to living in a low or average cost of living area) is very slim to none.
Legend you know I have no issue with you, but I think you're starting to slip a little. Just like even in that POF thread, you continued to go back and forth with 9Volt and thread had to be closed. That's just childish and while I know you weren't the only one involved in that, it's still very childish for us GROWN A.SS MEN to not be able to agree to disagree, and threads have to be closed.
It's like you are even trying to start the same thing with this thread. I don't know how you with a straight face are advising people to move to NYC because it's some guaranteed meal ticket. You and I both know that's not true, so why are you doing that? You and I both know, the meal ticket is based on your skills, the marketplace demand for said skills, and you living/operating in the region of the country where said demand is located.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.