"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Worst excuse for flaking ever????

old_skoolr

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Actually found a girl I thought I could have a good convo with. Get her number, we start talking, ask her out, she says of course :).

Message the next arvo telling her I'll pick her up at 8 and we'll go into the city, she messages me back 2 hours later saying, hey I'm gonna cancel, my uncle sorta passed away last night.

My firsts reaction was that she flaked. No girl would say 'my uncle kinda passed away.' But I thought i'd message telling her its cool, hope shes feeling alrite and offering my condolences.

Message her on Friday, asking how she is? No response.

I reckon I was right the first time when I thought she used it as an excuse.

Im not angry or depressed, Im just more shocked a girl would go to that length. Sorta sad, how messed up women are nowdays.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Between_The_Lines

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Yep, believe it.

My ex last year told me a few hours before my birthday celebration that she couldn't make it because her brother's Father in law was having emergency surgery and someone had to look after his kids, but that she was going to "try her best" to get out of having to babysit and attend. She sent me a self-serving text near midnight that she was still waiting on her mom (I think) to show up and relieve her of babysitting duties, but that she hoped I was having an amazing time with amazing friends and family on a memorable night blah blah stream of bullsh*t. Funny how she took me out for a beer the night before, as if to absolve her in advance of what (I'm suspect) she had planned all along - to flake on me. And yes, I wound up getting into a LTR relationship with this girl despite everyone telling me that if she didn't counter offer (which she did, but never followed through) it was high time to kick her to the curb, which I didn't do and now I'm here trying to tie up all my AFC loose ends. I asked for it!

That there was my own personal experience that yes, you will get fed some serious BS on occasion and the best you can do is make sure you don't stand in line to get a second serving sent in your direction.
 

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One time, my sister and her friend were talking in the living room. My dad and I were watching a game when her phone rang. She picked it up and it was a guy from her class asking her out. She lied and said that her coworker just passed away yesterday and she's with their family.

Which was a terrible lie considering she doesn't work. My dad made her call him back and tell him she was lying and would like to go out with him. Guess what? She ended up liking him and now they're going out. Smh.
 

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old_skoolr said:
Actually found a girl I thought I could have a good convo with. Get her number, we start talking, ask her out, she says of course :).

Message the next arvo telling her I'll pick her up at 8 and we'll go into the city, she messages me back 2 hours later saying, hey I'm gonna cancel, my uncle sorta passed away last night.
Are you that naive or desperate?
Some guys sorta deserve to deal with garbage...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Complete bulls**t excuse.

I would delete her entirely. Accept that you have failed with this girl and move on.
 

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smooth_as_silk said:
Are you that naive or desperate?
Some guys sorta deserve to deal with garbage...
The dude is just sharing his experience, no need to be hostile. Could happen to anyone. He knows its BS.
 

old_skoolr

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Lol cheers for sharing your expierience dudes.

Yeh I was more shocked that she'd say something like that. I thought I heard it all till then. I deleted her number of course, no point keeping it, deleted her as a friend off fb too, no guy should put up with that s.hit.
 

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Hahaha, "sorta". That cracked me up. Anyways, it doesn't matter. If it's an excuse you're done, and if it's legit she wouldn't be in a dating mood anyways.
 

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Had a girl flake on me because she said she had to go to get open heart surgery lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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