Worst advice I have gotten on SoSuave

[Zero_to_hero]

I have been on of this forum for 5 years or so. At first, mostly as a key board warrior. I have gotten a grate advice here, but also a horrible ones as well. I will share one of the worst advice I have gotten in this day and age, that, unfortunately, I took to heart and lived by for a while.

"Do not use Facebook (or other social media)".

When I read the post, it got overwhelmingly good responses, so 16 year old me took it to heart. The main idea was, that you want to be "Mysterious", "Original", "Unique". BIG MISTAKE. What you come off as is just WEIRD. This may not apply with women 40+, but this has a huge impact on girls 18+ years now. It is also plain stupid, not to use social media - that is how you connect with people from different countries. Phone numbers change - names stay the same (ussually). Good way to get in touch.

In this age, how many FB friends are you having correlates directly at your value in society (at least precieved one). It is a popularity contest. And when girls manage to know your first name and last name, be sure, they will swoop trough your Facebook.

Below shown a ruff idea about friends count (keep in mind, that I come from reserved country. US might have to multiply within a factor of 3).

<50 friends - RUN!!!
150 friends - loner and loser.
300 friends - meh
500 friends - average social guy
1200 friends - very popular, interesting
3500+ friends - low key celebrity or dip****, that adds everyone he can.

You get the idea.

Also, the pictures you post... Generally, no matter what kind pictures you post, you will get likes based on how much people like you physically or as a person. The more likes you got, the more status you gain.

Just imagine. You approach a girl, and she later checks you out in Facebook. She sees your profile picture with 300 likes and comments from girls "looking good", "Awesome", "heart emojis" etc. That shows, that you got women in your life and you get plenty attention from girls. Also, you must be very well liked. You guessed it - it shows VALUE. This is yours SOCIAL PROOF.

If I could speak with myself 7 years ago, this is what I would say:
1) Create Facebook and create a habbit of adding almost everybody you get to meet socially;
2) Post high quality pics of you and your friends, when you are doing something awesome. Use filters and tag them;
3) Every day log and check out which your FB friends have Birthday that day. Write on theyr wall good wishes.
4) Don't over do it, and do not play those silly FB games, but keep your page alive and interesting.

Remember: Your Facebook profile is your modern day business card. You will be judged by it by your employers, future business partners and your future love interest.

Obviously in developed countries new generation people are switching away from FaceBook to some other forms of social media. Social media is here to stay, so keep it current.

Don't live in the past - adapt or die.

 

[Who Dares Win]

If you have that kind of lifestyle that grants you a celebrity status, its a good idea to have facebook.
I talk about pictures in malibu while driving your sportscar and getting hundreds of likes and comments.

But if you happen to be an everyday normal guy with less than few hundreds friends who don like or comment your stuff and the only pictures you have are either boring or tryhard looking cool then no.
I believe we cant stay facebook is either good or bad, it depends on who you are and what you expect out of it.

Personally I dont have the look or life style to get a bonus out of it so pointless to be there to join the rat race.

A positive thing of being out is keeping a low profile and the moment I need to disappear not only it comes easy but no one remembers me, my name, the people I attend or what I usually do, plus no pics on me for girls to give marks.

 

[TheGambino]

I got 800 friends, but my social value comes in hand When Im out. People know me and I use it to my advantage.

 

[TheGambino]

I have been on of this forum for 5 years or so. At first, mostly as a key board warrior. I have gotten a grate advice here, but also a horrible ones as well. I will share one of the worst advice I have gotten in this day and age, that, unfortunately, I took to heart and lived by for a while.

"Do not use Facebook (or other social media)".

When I read the post, it got overwhelmingly good responses, so 16 year old me took it to heart. The main idea was, that you want to be "Mysterious", "Original", "Unique". BIG MISTAKE. What you come off as is just WEIRD. This may not apply with women 40+, but this has a huge impact on girls 18+ years now. It is also plain stupid, not to use social media - that is how you connect with people from different countries. Phone numbers change - names stay the same (ussually). Good way to get in touch.

In this age, how many FB friends are you having correlates directly at your value in society (at least precieved one). It is a popularity contest. And when girls manage to know your first name and last name, be sure, they will swoop trough your Facebook.

Below shown a ruff idea about friends count (keep in mind, that I come from reserved country. US might have to multiply within a factor of 3).

<50 friends - RUN!!!
150 friends - loner and loser.
300 friends - meh
500 friends - average social guy
1200 friends - very popular, interesting
3500+ friends - low key celebrity or dip****, that adds everyone he can.

You get the idea.

Also, the pictures you post... Generally, no matter what kind pictures you post, you will get likes based on how much people like you physically or as a person. The more likes you got, the more status you gain.

Just imagine. You approach a girl, and she later checks you out in Facebook. She sees your profile picture with 300 likes and comments from girls "looking good", "Awesome", "heart emojis" etc. That shows, that you got women in your life and you get plenty attention from girls. Also, you must be very well liked. You guessed it - it shows VALUE. This is yours SOCIAL PROOF.

If I could speak with myself 7 years ago, this is what I would say:
1) Create Facebook and create a habbit of adding almost everybody you get to meet socially;
2) Post high quality pics of you and your friends, when you are doing something awesome. Use filters and tag them;
3) Every day log and check out which your FB friends have Birthday that day. Write on theyr wall good wishes.
4) Don't over do it, and do not play those silly FB games, but keep your page alive and interesting.

Remember: Your Facebook profile is your modern day business card. You will be judged by it by your employers, future business partners and your future love interest.

Obviously in developed countries new generation people are switching away from FaceBook to some other forms of social media. Social media is here to stay, so keep it current.

Don't live in the past - adapt or die.

100% true.

 

[Asasione]

I have been on of this forum for 5 years or so. At first, mostly as a key board warrior. I have gotten a grate advice here, but also a horrible ones as well. I will share one of the worst advice I have gotten in this day and age, that, unfortunately, I took to heart and lived by for a while.

"Do not use Facebook (or other social media)".

When I read the post, it got overwhelmingly good responses, so 16 year old me took it to heart. The main idea was, that you want to be "Mysterious", "Original", "Unique". BIG MISTAKE. What you come off as is just WEIRD. This may not apply with women 40+, but this has a huge impact on girls 18+ years now. It is also plain stupid, not to use social media - that is how you connect with people from different countries. Phone numbers change - names stay the same (ussually). Good way to get in touch.

In this age, how many FB friends are you having correlates directly at your value in society (at least precieved one). It is a popularity contest. And when girls manage to know your first name and last name, be sure, they will swoop trough your Facebook.

Below shown a ruff idea about friends count (keep in mind, that I come from reserved country. US might have to multiply within a factor of 3).

<50 friends - RUN!!!
150 friends - loner and loser.
300 friends - meh
500 friends - average social guy
1200 friends - very popular, interesting
3500+ friends - low key celebrity or dip****, that adds everyone he can.

You get the idea.

Also, the pictures you post... Generally, no matter what kind pictures you post, you will get likes based on how much people like you physically or as a person. The more likes you got, the more status you gain.

Just imagine. You approach a girl, and she later checks you out in Facebook. She sees your profile picture with 300 likes and comments from girls "looking good", "Awesome", "heart emojis" etc. That shows, that you got women in your life and you get plenty attention from girls. Also, you must be very well liked. You guessed it - it shows VALUE. This is yours SOCIAL PROOF.

If I could speak with myself 7 years ago, this is what I would say:
1) Create Facebook and create a habbit of adding almost everybody you get to meet socially;
2) Post high quality pics of you and your friends, when you are doing something awesome. Use filters and tag them;
3) Every day log and check out which your FB friends have Birthday that day. Write on theyr wall good wishes.
4) Don't over do it, and do not play those silly FB games, but keep your page alive and interesting.

Remember: Your Facebook profile is your modern day business card. You will be judged by it by your employers, future business partners and your future love interest.

Obviously in developed countries new generation people are switching away from FaceBook to some other forms of social media. Social media is here to stay, so keep it current.

Don't live in the past - adapt or die.

I don't use Facebook much if at all, log in once or twice every couple months. I have several hundred friends on there but no one I talk to so please enlighten me, how exactly has the social proof increased your success with women? How many lays or any other tangible benefits have you received from doing the above? How did it help for employment? Give me examples that are relevant so I understand where you are coming from with this advice. I find it easier going out for night game and talking to women than investing time on Facebook, you get immediate results and day game leads to direct communication. I'm trying to wrap my head around this cause I know people with 3000+ friends and they all say it's useless

 

[marmel75]

Completely disagree. I've always told a woman I don't have it and its never caused an issue.

If you are losing women over Facebook then you simply have a lot of holes in your game that you need to work on.

 

[BeTheChange]

18-22 mostly use IG and Snapchat

Then substitute Facebook for IG when reading his post...

Good post. And would definitely have told myself something similar in my younger days.

 

[sosousage]

I have been on of this forum for 5 years or so. At first, mostly as a key board warrior. I have gotten a grate advice here, but also a horrible ones as well. I will share one of the worst advice I have gotten in this day and age, that, unfortunately, I took to heart and lived by for a while.

"Do not use Facebook (or other social media)".

When I read the post, it got overwhelmingly good responses, so 16 year old me took it to heart. The main idea was, that you want to be "Mysterious", "Original", "Unique". BIG MISTAKE. What you come off as is just WEIRD. This may not apply with women 40+, but this has a huge impact on girls 18+ years now. It is also plain stupid, not to use social media - that is how you connect with people from different countries. Phone numbers change - names stay the same (ussually). Good way to get in touch.

In this age, how many FB friends are you having correlates directly at your value in society (at least precieved one). It is a popularity contest. And when girls manage to know your first name and last name, be sure, they will swoop trough your Facebook.

Below shown a ruff idea about friends count (keep in mind, that I come from reserved country. US might have to multiply within a factor of 3).

<50 friends - RUN!!!
150 friends - loner and loser.
300 friends - meh
500 friends - average social guy
1200 friends - very popular, interesting
3500+ friends - low key celebrity or dip****, that adds everyone he can.

You get the idea.

Also, the pictures you post... Generally, no matter what kind pictures you post, you will get likes based on how much people like you physically or as a person. The more likes you got, the more status you gain.

Just imagine. You approach a girl, and she later checks you out in Facebook. She sees your profile picture with 300 likes and comments from girls "looking good", "Awesome", "heart emojis" etc. That shows, that you got women in your life and you get plenty attention from girls. Also, you must be very well liked. You guessed it - it shows VALUE. This is yours SOCIAL PROOF.

If I could speak with myself 7 years ago, this is what I would say:
1) Create Facebook and create a habbit of adding almost everybody you get to meet socially;
2) Post high quality pics of you and your friends, when you are doing something awesome. Use filters and tag them;
3) Every day log and check out which your FB friends have Birthday that day. Write on theyr wall good wishes.
4) Don't over do it, and do not play those silly FB games, but keep your page alive and interesting.

Remember: Your Facebook profile is your modern day business card. You will be judged by it by your employers, future business partners and your future love interest.

Obviously in developed countries new generation people are switching away from FaceBook to some other forms of social media. Social media is here to stay, so keep it current.

Don't live in the past - adapt or die.

What if I have 25 friends on facebook? I blocked it (its invisible now) but they are suspicious still I think!



I told couple women I dont have facebook, and I told couple of them that I have it (everything grayed/blocked just profile photo there). These women that realised my surname looked me on fb, and got pissed then left me.

on other hand, These women that had my fb since start (but grayed one) stopped texting without a word (ghosting) after they got to know someone with less empty facebook.

i will try to fix it but its not easy



note the more options woman have the more they care about fb account.. the unattractive ones dont care (age from 15-25 maybe 15-30, older ones dont care probably aobut facebook)

 

[Zero_to_hero]

If you have that kind of lifestyle that grants you a celebrity status, its a good idea to have facebook.
I talk about pictures in malibu while driving your sportscar and getting hundreds of likes and comments.

I would beg to disagree. Just show that you have a life. That you are possionate and stand for something. That you have friends around you, that you are having fun with. At first, that will do.

About the part, where you don't have friends, that would comment your pictures or like them. Give to get. If you scroll trough your feed, and think of something funny or something genuine, that would brighten up theyr day, why not post a comment to theyr newly added pictures? Do this, and the likes and comments you receive will also increase, increasing your preceived value to others as well.

If you are in a relationship, and post a new picture of yourself, and get just a few girls to comment your picture, your GF will see it, and it will make her wounder. Be prepared, to answer the question "who is she?", when that happens. How you play it out afterwards is up to you, but the thought seed would be allready planted, as she is not the only one, who have orbiters. Is it something to make or break relationship? NO. But it sure is a nice touch.

I don't use Facebook much if at all, log in once or twice every couple months. I have several hundred friends on there but no one I talk to so please enlighten me, how exactly has the social proof increased your success with women? How many lays or any other tangible benefits have you received from doing the above? How did it help for employment? Give me examples that are relevant so I understand where you are coming from with this advice. I find it easier going out for night game and talking to women than investing time on Facebook, you get immediate results and day game leads to direct communication. I'm trying to wrap my head around this cause I know people with 3000+ friends and they all say it's useless

C'mon, man! You know better then that. It's never a black or white, yes or no - dating game is no exception. Its like me asking, specifically how many lays have you gotten from the fact you own a car, how many lays from opening doors to women entering buildings, how many lays from you being funny. The FB thing (or any social media), is only part of it.

It is way better, if you have your FB in check, otherwise you may face an uphill battle if a girl starts to wounder are you a creep or not. Why don't you have many friends or aquatences?

Employment - c'mon. I had a boss, that would figure out a horoscope sign from the date of birth for a potential applicant, and base the decision on weather or not ask the person in interview, just from that. "We have lot of Sagitarius, so a Scorpio rep would not fit in and would stirr things up". You can guess the gender of my boss yourself. There are fields, where it is just plain stupid, to mention, that you occasionally play basketball in your resume or CV. A lot of employers would stalk your FB page, before ask you on the interview and look - here is a grate picture in a middle of a dunk, and it just so happens, that this company has a basketball cup between branches. Guess who just got an edge.

App and IT field is getting more and more creative. If company is looking for adventurous type, and here are you hiking, kayaking, partying e.t.c. Then there is person b, with 65 friends, graduation photo in profile pic and 7 likes from people, with the same last name as him. Can you spot who would come on top? Person 1 can still **** up the interview, but comming in the doors, he is not facing as an uphill battle as person B.

Also keep in mind, that I am 23 year old guy (see, didn't use the word man), and I am dating 18-23 year old GIRLS (not women).

In conclusion: There are girls, that will write you off only because your FB sucks, because they would need to make excuses, when friends would ask about you. Big turnoff. Thankfully it is not the vast majority of girls. Usually bad FB will not be your "make or breake", but it can be a nuisance. It can make your road bumpier, and couse it to be an uphill battle from the very start. Good FB gives you more opportunities, give the perception that you are well liked and well adjusted individual in this day and age. Why choose the uphill battle when you can avoid it? Don't be lazy - it does not take that much time anyways. In the end, it is just another tool in your arsenal.

 

[Asasione]

I would beg to disagree. Just show that you have a life. That you are possionate and stand for something. That you have friends around you, that you are having fun with. At first, that will do.

About the part, where you don't have friends, that would comment your pictures or like them. Give to get. If you scroll trough your feed, and think of something funny or something genuine, that would brighten up theyr day, why not post a comment to theyr newly added pictures? Do this, and the likes and comments you receive will also increase, increasing your preceived value to others as well.

If you are in a relationship, and post a new picture of yourself, and get just a few girls to comment your picture, your GF will see it, and it will make her wounder. Be prepared, to answer the question "who is she?", when that happens. How you play it out afterwards is up to you, but the thought seed would be allready planted, as she is not the only one, who have orbiters. Is it something to make or break relationship? NO. But it sure is a nice touch.



C'mon, man! You know better then that. It's never a black or white, yes or no - dating game is no exception. Its like me asking, specifically how many lays have you gotten from the fact you own a car, how many lays from opening doors to women entering buildings, how many lays from you being funny. The FB thing (or any social media), is only part of it.

It is way better, if you have your FB in check, otherwise you may face an uphill battle if a girl starts to wounder are you a creep or not. Why don't you have many friends or aquatences?

Employment - c'mon. I had a boss, that would figure out a horoscope sign from the date of birth for a potential applicant, and base the decision on weather or not ask the person in interview, just from that. "We have lot of Sagitarius, so a Scorpio rep would not fit in and would stirr things up". You can guess the gender of my boss yourself. There are fields, where it is just plain stupid, to mention, that you occasionally play basketball in your resume or CV. A lot of employers would stalk your FB page, before ask you on the interview and look - here is a grate picture in a middle of a dunk, and it just so happens, that this company has a basketball cup between branches. Guess who just got an edge.

App and IT field is getting more and more creative. If company is looking for adventurous type, and here are you hiking, kayaking, partying e.t.c. Then there is person b, with 65 friends, graduation photo in profile pic and 7 likes from people, with the same last name as him. Can you spot who would come on top? Person 1 can still **** up the interview, but comming in the doors, he is not facing as an uphill battle as person B.

Also keep in mind, that I am 23 year old guy (see, didn't use the word man), and I am dating 18-23 year old GIRLS (not women).

In conclusion: There are girls, that will write you off only because your FB sucks, because they would need to make excuses, when friends would ask about you. Big turnoff. Thankfully it is not the vast majority of girls. Usually bad FB will not be your "make or breake", but it can be a nuisance. It can make your road bumpier, and couse it to be an uphill battle from the very start. Good FB gives you more opportunities, give the perception that you are well liked and well adjusted individual in this day and age. Why choose the uphill battle when you can avoid it? Don't be lazy - it does not take that much time anyways. In the end, it is just another tool in your arsenal.

Not surprised you couldn't give any tangible benefits beyond wishy washy statements about showing your value and giving impressions about your character. Not remotely interested as a result. Wasn't interested in specific numbers but stories or examples that demonstrate how it helped you. Considering your age you will eventually learn what the rest of us older fellas learned that Facebook is a waste of time. 99.9% of those people on your Facebook are not your real friends anyway, you're just playing popularity games to try to coax bottom of the barrel girls to sleep with you because your personality isn't strong enough to convey your value on its own.

I am not trying to abuse you with my statements but just trying to say this is not a necessary tool for anyone. If you're on OLD then that I fully understand and support because you're there with a purpose so a strong profile that conveys the things you espoused would be a must but Facebook, no your argument wasn't well presented enough to convince me. Why waste time posting some pics of having fun just to impress others and make them like you or have a good impression of you? That's weak as fvck, why not build up a personality that's strong enough to attract and keep those people in your life because they actually like you.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Unfortunately, I can't use it under my real name. I could use a fake name, but that would feel like I'm lying to people I would be trying to make friends with, plus I probably couldn't add very many people anyway because I don't really desire to have 1000 friends.

I've seen a lot of Facebook profiles that haven't been updated in years. I'm not sure if most people are still actually using it. But it's stock continues to soar.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I disagree. There are SO many people who seem cool online, but when you talk to them in person, they’re just awkward af. I got rid of all social media myself and haven’t looked back. I developed my social skills to be better than most in my opinion, but the problem is most people are now SUPER awkward so it’s hard to carry a conversation with them for a long time unless they’re comfortable with you. But they don’t have any IRL friends so they aren’t comfortable with anyone. That crap is so annoying. Of those who aren’t weird or awkward, many of them talk about the stupidest things ever, such as what someone else said/did/was/is doing on social media, or how blazed they got the night before, or how wasted they got on the weekend with their lame and otherwise boring ass friends. Social media is so fake, it’s rediculous. The only thing I could understand having is an IG if you consistently do something cool with your life or maybe a Snapchat. But everything else is just a waste of time. Even those two are. Why the hell should I take time out of my day just to compete with 900 other weaklings just to prove that I’m better than them? **** them. I’ll gladly **** around all day doing miscellaneous things that are entertaining to me rather than anxiously wait for some kind of notification or message or *GASP* a new friend request. You know, because I’m a shallow and awkward ******* in real life who can’t hold eye contact for more than half a second.

It’s an excuse to wait for something cool to happen to you rather than make something cool happen to yourself. That’s why I got off of it. Your people skills deteriorate rapidly and you use the apps on your phone as an excuse to not look like a loner. People are so weak nowadays.

 

[sosousage]

Unfortunately, I can't use it under my real name. I could use a fake name, but that would feel like I'm lying to people I would be trying to make friends with, plus I probably couldn't add very many people anyway because I don't really desire to have 1000 friends.


I've seen a lot of Facebook profiles that haven't been updated in years. I'm not sure if most people are still actually using it. But it's stock continues to soar.

Depends on age. I was neglected by many 18-25yo chicks because of empty facebook im still dating chicks that are not popular (good for me) but the more popular ones would never go for no fb boyfriend

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Depends on age. I was neglected by many 18-25yo chicks because of empty facebook im still dating chicks that are not popular (good for me) but the more popular ones would never go for no fb boyfriend

I'd gladly make one, but they'd have to understand my past and why it's under a fake name.

 

[RangerMIke]

I like Facebook... it's a great way to see events going on around me. It's also an easy way to keep connected with friends and family. I think for younger women it's very important. Most women I see (mid 30s to mid 40s) don't care about Facebook.

 

[sosousage]

I'd gladly make one, but they'd have to understand my past and why it's under a fake name.

you change location and boom they dont have to know your past.

 

[Zero_to_hero]

Not surprised you couldn't give any tangible benefits beyond wishy washy statements about showing your value and giving impressions about your character. Not remotely interested as a result. Wasn't interested in specific numbers but stories or examples that demonstrate how it helped you. Considering your age you will eventually learn what the rest of us older fellas learned that Facebook is a waste of time. 99.9% of those people on your Facebook are not your real friends anyway, you're just playing popularity games to try to coax bottom of the barrel girls to sleep with you because your personality isn't strong enough to convey your value on its own.

I am not trying to abuse you with my statements but just trying to say this is not a necessary tool for anyone. If you're on OLD then that I fully understand and support because you're there with a purpose so a strong profile that conveys the things you espoused would be a must but Facebook, no your argument wasn't well presented enough to convince me. Why waste time posting some pics of having fun just to impress others and make them like you or have a good impression of you? That's weak as fvck, why not build up a personality that's strong enough to attract and keep those people in your life because they actually like you.

Here is a wild tought - Why not build a character, that people get drawn in naturally by and also have a good FB profile that conveys the same message.

Want anecdotal episodes from my life, where FB has bean usefull?

1) Since I upgradet my FB account, flakiness from Tinder has gone to 0%. More friends you have, more chance that you will have mutual connection on Tinder. Before going out, it is likely, that girl will ask her friend some things about you. If you are not a complete dip****, you will get a good referrence. No uphill battle. Some of my friends are allready making fun of me, how often theyr friends randomly ask about, what I am like.

2) Just this week, one guy approached me in Uni asking about a dance event my friend was organizing and I posted that I will be attending. Met one of his friends aswell. Bolth are cool, single dudes that probably will be able to wingman me (and I them aswell) in the future. *Boom* Expanding social circle.

3)I posted a pic, that got a like from this girl I met like 4 years ago. Guess who is now 19 and have grown into a fine woman. Shortly after a like, she messaged me, and we sheduled a date. It will be on Sunday. Ask me how it went then.

These are just recent ones. I do live a socially active life, and it is good to show it. You find people with common interests easier aswell.

In the end, it is easy and does not take a lot of effort. Do something awesome, take a picture, press a button to post it, and receive a ton of likes. How long did it take me? A minute? Also, it does form a bond if you take it with someone and tag them. I do awesome stuff all the time. I do it for me. I have created a habbit to post best moments in my life FB aswell. Nothing wrong with that.

It does feel good, to receive the likes. Is it necessity? No. But sex also is not a necessity, but we do it, because it feels good.

I disagree. There are SO many people who seem cool online, but when you talk to them in person, they’re just awkward af. I got rid of all social media myself and haven’t looked back. I developed my social skills to be better than most in my opinion, but the problem is most people are now SUPER awkward so it’s hard to carry a conversation with them for a long time unless they’re comfortable with you. But they don’t have any IRL friends so they aren’t comfortable with anyone. That crap is so annoying. Of those who aren’t weird or awkward, many of them talk about the stupidest things ever, such as what someone else said/did/was/is doing on social media, or how blazed they got the night before, or how wasted they got on the weekend with their lame and otherwise boring ass friends. Social media is so fake, it’s rediculous. The only thing I could understand having is an IG if you consistently do something cool with your life or maybe a Snapchat. But everything else is just a waste of time. Even those two are. Why the hell should I take time out of my day just to compete with 900 other weaklings just to prove that I’m better than them? **** them. I’ll gladly **** around all day doing miscellaneous things that are entertaining to me rather than anxiously wait for some kind of notification or message or *GASP* a new friend request. You know, because I’m a shallow and awkward ******* in real life who can’t hold eye contact for more than half a second.

It’s an excuse to wait for something cool to happen to you rather than make something cool happen to yourself. That’s why I got off of it. Your people skills deteriorate rapidly and you use the apps on your phone as an excuse to not look like a loner. People are so weak nowadays.

Yes there are people who are so awkward that only way them to construct a sentance is trough keyboard. No one is saying, that You should be that guy. Your people skills deteriorate rapidly only if you get sucked into it. They would deteriorate rapidly, if you decided to cut out ALL your distractions and learn to master violin for 5 years also. Also if you play video games video games non stop for 5 years. My unpopular opinion - both scenarios are equally bad.

Stop taking things so obsolete.

In the end, we all do what works for us. If You find it annoying and useless - don't use it. The point I tried to make, was I took an advice about ghosting FB years ago from a person, with a similar trail of taught as yours, and I come to regret it deeply, because of all the opportunities, I might have missed out on.

Also, it is not that much of an effort - the most effort I have made in regards of FB probably is now, when I try to defend its usefulness.

Depends on age. I was neglected by many 18-25yo chicks because of empty facebook im still dating chicks that are not popular (good for me) but the more popular ones would never go for no fb boyfriend

Exactly my point!

 

[wifehunter]

cough LinkedIn cough

 

[skinnyguy]

I have been on of this forum for 5 years or so. At first, mostly as a key board warrior. I have gotten a grate advice here, but also a horrible ones as well. I will share one of the worst advice I have gotten in this day and age, that, unfortunately, I took to heart and lived by for a while.

"Do not use Facebook (or other social media)".

When I read the post, it got overwhelmingly good responses, so 16 year old me took it to heart. The main idea was, that you want to be "Mysterious", "Original", "Unique". BIG MISTAKE. What you come off as is just WEIRD. This may not apply with women 40+, but this has a huge impact on girls 18+ years now. It is also plain stupid, not to use social media - that is how you connect with people from different countries. Phone numbers change - names stay the same (ussually). Good way to get in touch.

In this age, how many FB friends are you having correlates directly at your value in society (at least precieved one). It is a popularity contest. And when girls manage to know your first name and last name, be sure, they will swoop trough your Facebook.

Below shown a ruff idea about friends count (keep in mind, that I come from reserved country. US might have to multiply within a factor of 3).

<50 friends - RUN!!!
150 friends - loner and loser.
300 friends - meh
500 friends - average social guy
1200 friends - very popular, interesting
3500+ friends - low key celebrity or dip****, that adds everyone he can.

You get the idea.

Also, the pictures you post... Generally, no matter what kind pictures you post, you will get likes based on how much people like you physically or as a person. The more likes you got, the more status you gain.

Just imagine. You approach a girl, and she later checks you out in Facebook. She sees your profile picture with 300 likes and comments from girls "looking good", "Awesome", "heart emojis" etc. That shows, that you got women in your life and you get plenty attention from girls. Also, you must be very well liked. You guessed it - it shows VALUE. This is yours SOCIAL PROOF.

If I could speak with myself 7 years ago, this is what I would say:
1) Create Facebook and create a habbit of adding almost everybody you get to meet socially;
2) Post high quality pics of you and your friends, when you are doing something awesome. Use filters and tag them;
3) Every day log and check out which your FB friends have Birthday that day. Write on theyr wall good wishes.
4) Don't over do it, and do not play those silly FB games, but keep your page alive and interesting.

Remember: Your Facebook profile is your modern day business card. You will be judged by it by your employers, future business partners and your future love interest.

Obviously in developed countries new generation people are switching away from FaceBook to some other forms of social media. Social media is here to stay, so keep it current.

Don't live in the past - adapt or die.

If you're popular, use all forms of social media possible.

If you're not, avoid it because using it will make you look like a bigger loser than you actually are.

 

[RangerMIke]

I really like this thread. It reminds us all that we have cross generational cultural differences. All chicks respond to the same thing, but how you communicate with them is very different. I have a 41 yo I just started seeing, if I tried to set up a date via text, she wouldn't respond. I have a date this Sunday with a 27 year old who won't answer her fvcking phone, but when I text for dates she's all in.