"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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working part time for the long haul

mofro

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I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bambam

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personally, you sound like an annoying little baby that will have a long hard life. you are the reason that outsourcing to cheap foreign labor is so great. there are millions of well-educated chinese, eastern europeans, and indians who will do what you don't want to do for 30 times cheaper. globalization kicks a$$!
 

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?

My take is...are you serious?
 

Centaurion

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I'm in college as well, and I have a part-time job where I work 3 days a week between 3pm - 11pm. And it's not a sh!tty job (I'm a supervisor at large international survey company). Just explain to your employer that you are attending college, and if they can be a little flexible towards you.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
As long as you have viable skills anything can be negotiated, there are many companies that allow flex time based on the duties of the position. If it's a shift position you may ask if you could work a crossover or split shift. If you don't need to punch a clock, you'll have the chance of working based on what you produce. If done correctly you could work part time hours while getting paid a full time salary.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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