"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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working part time for the long haul

mofro

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I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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personally, you sound like an annoying little baby that will have a long hard life. you are the reason that outsourcing to cheap foreign labor is so great. there are millions of well-educated chinese, eastern europeans, and indians who will do what you don't want to do for 30 times cheaper. globalization kicks a$$!
 

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?

My take is...are you serious?
 

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I'm in college as well, and I have a part-time job where I work 3 days a week between 3pm - 11pm. And it's not a sh!tty job (I'm a supervisor at large international survey company). Just explain to your employer that you are attending college, and if they can be a little flexible towards you.
 

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
As long as you have viable skills anything can be negotiated, there are many companies that allow flex time based on the duties of the position. If it's a shift position you may ask if you could work a crossover or split shift. If you don't need to punch a clock, you'll have the chance of working based on what you produce. If done correctly you could work part time hours while getting paid a full time salary.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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