"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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working part time for the long haul

mofro

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I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bambam

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personally, you sound like an annoying little baby that will have a long hard life. you are the reason that outsourcing to cheap foreign labor is so great. there are millions of well-educated chinese, eastern europeans, and indians who will do what you don't want to do for 30 times cheaper. globalization kicks a$$!
 

Skel

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?

My take is...are you serious?
 

Centaurion

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I'm in college as well, and I have a part-time job where I work 3 days a week between 3pm - 11pm. And it's not a sh!tty job (I'm a supervisor at large international survey company). Just explain to your employer that you are attending college, and if they can be a little flexible towards you.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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mofro said:
I'm still in college, but I'm anticipating a lot of undue stress from working full time (meaning 40 hours plus commuting, I don't consider driving to be not-working). I am living indipendently on less than $1000 a month, and am in a degree that will bring in 40k+ for full time, but I have never heard anyone discuss part time in this field. I need 12k, want double that for a buffer and savings.

Do you guys have any advice on how to negotiate this with an employer. I want to basically arrive at work later and/or leave early, NOT simply work 4 days. Why let stress built and decline when it can be held at a manageable level all of the time from a shorter work day?

I'm a little concerned that, living in America, land of the workaholics, it will be tough to find such a job where I am not at the office as long as everyone else is.

Your take on this?
As long as you have viable skills anything can be negotiated, there are many companies that allow flex time based on the duties of the position. If it's a shift position you may ask if you could work a crossover or split shift. If you don't need to punch a clock, you'll have the chance of working based on what you produce. If done correctly you could work part time hours while getting paid a full time salary.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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