"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Working out VS rating scales.

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Pretty simple question.

I have a hot or not account and am rated 7.1. I haven't really worked out in a year. I'm not fat, not skinny, not muscly, not unclean. I have severe problems with alcohol. I have a very receding hairline, which sucks. I shaved my head to overcome this.

Back on topic... I'm really interested to see what my rating will change to, after following an intense workout program and reducing my alcohol intake for 6 months. I'm going to submit a shot to hotornot on a new account, after 6 months and see what the rating will change (hopefully it goes up, at least!!).

So a question for all you DJs out there.. how much do you think it's possible to add to one's rating scale by working out at the gym? Assuming the guy didn't start off being a skinny, scrawny guy or fat, lazy guy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You are a 10,,don't mind what the others think of you. It's not important. Wake up,,and convince yourself you are a 10,,and that everything today will be simply wonderful!

1) you FEEL like a 10
2) you ACT like a 10
3) others in return will look up to you and think of you as a 10.

But don't be ignorant, because all of us have room for improvements.
 

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EvilAgenda said:
You are a 10,,don't mind what the others think of you. It's not important. Wake up,,and convince yourself you are a 10,,and that everything today will be simply wonderful!

1) you FEEL like a 10
2) you ACT like a 10
3) others in return will look up to you and think of you as a 10.

But don't be ignorant, because all of us have room for improvements.
he doesnt know..

and this does not belong in the tips fourm.
 

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EvilAgenda said:
You are a 10,,don't mind what the others think of you. It's not important. Wake up,,and convince yourself you are a 10,,and that everything today will be simply wonderful!

1) you FEEL like a 10
2) you ACT like a 10
3) others in return will look up to you and think of you as a 10.

But don't be ignorant, because all of us have room for improvements.
Great advice. If you feel like a 10 and act like a 10 , others will think you're a 10.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A lot, but I don't think it's going to be quite so visible in pictures.

Also, 6 months isn't enough. To make any SERIOUS improvements in your physique you're going to need 1.5-2 years of solid, hard work done right. Anything beyond "losing the beer belly" or "toning up" is going to take that long, at least.
 

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CosMoenTropic said:
I seriously doubt you are over the age of 14 .. Are you fking kidding me?
No, I'm old enough to know better.

All good advice "feel like a 10", act confident. Nearly everyone knows these things. But this isn't what the thread was asking at all. I am talking 100% physical appearance. Looks DO matter, to a lot of people. If you choose to live in ignorance of that, you're holding your own game down.

Furyguy, have you ever heard of Gym Jones?
 

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If you feel like a 10 and act like a 10 , others will think you're a 10.
Also if you act like you are 10, (like the author of this post), others will think you are 10.

Seriously, hot or not is a load of pure bull.
 

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I can tell you this-- it is a lot easier for you to get results in the gym if you have bigger motivations than simply vanity.

Think of it as developing your discipline, building character, and setting goals. This will keep you motivated longer.
 

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1) get into the gym
2) kill the alcohol consumption. IF you can't drink under control and in moderation then it's none at all.
3) Why do you care how others see you? You know what you have to do so do it and then you'll feel a hell of a lot better.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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CosMoenTropic said:
I can tell you this-- it is a lot easier for you to get results in the gym if you have bigger motivations than simply vanity.

Think of it as developing your discipline, building character, and setting goals. This will keep you motivated longer.
I know this. I went to the gym regularly (3-4 times a week) for 3 years in my late teens/younger 20's. What does this have to do with the original post?

No-one has actually answered the post itself and instead is trying to give me all this advice I didn't ask for. I can browse the forum and articles myself... The question itself has nothing to do with "what can I do to become a more attractive man?". I'm comfortable with myself, believe it or not.
 

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The_411 said:
2) kill the alcohol consumption. IF you can't drink under control and in moderation then it's none at all.
3) Why do you care how others see you? You know what you have to do so do it and then you'll feel a hell of a lot better.
2) Trying to work it down. Got into a habit of drinking a lot when I was depressed last year. Was binge drinking every night of the week until around a month ago where I cut it down to 1 or 2 nights.
3) Trust me, I'm there. Heading there now in fact. And a duathlon tomorrow, huhu. Go me.
 
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