"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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working out of your comfort zone?

deadpossum

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Usually I try and find girls that I will often be in contact with (they go to my school, church, sports team, etc) but recently I met one that works at a local store and thought she was cute - but I didn't really think about it because I don't see her except for where she works (she doesn't attend my school, we don't have the same friends, etc.) Recently, someone else who works at this store told me that the girl thought I was "cute" and so I played it cool, left my number with this third party, and left. Two hours later the girl texts me (yikes) and we chat, but I end it quick with "we should do something sometime, let me know when you're not working, etc."

I saw her again today and remembered how incredibly shy this girl is. I have a really hard time working with people that hard to talk with. Add this to the fact that I don't see her in any of my familiar social...interactions? (looking for the right word here) and it all leads to me being totally out of my comfort zone and nervous, which I never am. Suggestions?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dhizzyballuh

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when cant think of anything to say..squeeze your left nut very very hard till noise comes out, this will break the akward silence














































































dont be mad just wanted some laughs lol
 

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I know what you mean, you have to be patient with her especially in the beginning so that she trusts you, and so that she can open up to you. Shy girls are usually like that.
 
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