"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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working out of your comfort zone?

deadpossum

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Usually I try and find girls that I will often be in contact with (they go to my school, church, sports team, etc) but recently I met one that works at a local store and thought she was cute - but I didn't really think about it because I don't see her except for where she works (she doesn't attend my school, we don't have the same friends, etc.) Recently, someone else who works at this store told me that the girl thought I was "cute" and so I played it cool, left my number with this third party, and left. Two hours later the girl texts me (yikes) and we chat, but I end it quick with "we should do something sometime, let me know when you're not working, etc."

I saw her again today and remembered how incredibly shy this girl is. I have a really hard time working with people that hard to talk with. Add this to the fact that I don't see her in any of my familiar social...interactions? (looking for the right word here) and it all leads to me being totally out of my comfort zone and nervous, which I never am. Suggestions?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dhizzyballuh

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when cant think of anything to say..squeeze your left nut very very hard till noise comes out, this will break the akward silence














































































dont be mad just wanted some laughs lol
 

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I know what you mean, you have to be patient with her especially in the beginning so that she trusts you, and so that she can open up to you. Shy girls are usually like that.
 
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