"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Working out as a teen

seloifter

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Quote from "Body for Life" by Bill Phillips

"Q: Should my teenage boys start this Program?


A: The Body-for-LIFE Program is intended for healthy adults - generally those over teh age of 18.

I do not bleieve young teens - ages 13 to 15 - should train with weights. At that age, I recommend calisthenics, like jumping jacks, push-ups, pull-ups, sit-ups, and running - the type of activity I used to do when I was that age.

Sixteen- and 17-year-olds can do the exercises described in this book, but their aim should be to conduct 15 to 25 repetitions per set, and using the Intensity Index, they should never exceed a level 7 effort [the intensity index is 1-10, where 1 is sitting on the couch, and 10 is where the earth is shaking and someone could offer you a million dollars to do one more rep and you couldn't do it]. You see, during puberty, teh body is so primed for growth that low-intensity resistance exercise creates results. But, during puberty, teh bones are still growing, and strenuous resistance exercise may interfere with bone grwoth; thus, teenagers should not begin working out intensely with weights until they have completely "matured" physically. Typically that's around age 18.

In terms of nutrition, I blieve teenagers should develop the habit of eating frequent, high-nutrient, protein - and carbohyidrate-containing means. However, fast-growing teenagers should not restrict calories - as long as the food is of good quality (chicken, potatoes, rice, fruit, vegetables, milk), they should eat often and plentifully.

As for teens and supplements, when something's working right, why mess with it? So when kids ask me whether they should use creatine or whatever, I say forget it. Invest in a good healthy diet. Eat the right foods six times a day. Avoid teh wrong foods. And drink alot of water."

Well, the guy is pretty knowledgeable about exercise, but my question is, what are your views on teens and exercise? Is he right?
Your comments?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DIESEL

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Yeah, I would say he's on point... especially about 15 year olds obsessed with their max bench press and how big their biceps are..

I didn't start lifting til I was 17, and I figured I didn't really get a fukkin' clue as to proper training and nutrition til I stopped reading the "magazines" when I was 19.

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You see, during puberty, teh body is so primed for growth that low-intensity resistance exercise creates results.
Sure you can get some results, but the most muscular high schoolers are the ones that lift heavy.

But, during puberty, teh bones are still growing, and strenuous resistance exercise may interfere with bone grwoth; thus, teenagers should not begin working out intensely with weights until they have completely "matured" physically. Typically that's around age 18.
I'd like to see evidence that weightlifting interferes with bone growth.
 

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Working out PROPERLY will not interfere with growth, and does not stunt your growth. Its all a myth...

The only way to do it wrong is if you do something stupid, and hurt a growth plate, thatll seriously f*ck you up. But thats rare if yo're not screwing around when working out.
 

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Originally posted by sonick182
Working out PROPERLY will not interfere with growth, and does not stunt your growth. Its all a myth...

The only way to do it wrong is if you do something stupid, and hurt a growth plate, thatll seriously f*ck you up. But thats rare if yo're not screwing around when working out.
amen!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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