"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Working on becoming a dangerous man, people respect and fear

jhonny9546

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Gamisch

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
Hmm...

The problem with " being dangerous " is you get "one life" every time when you play. Most sane people will avoid such a man because they wanna continue living . This "honeybadger approach " is a dangerous game, and can easily go the wrong way for the protagonist of the story...

The most dangerous person is the man who fights for righteousness. That has to be the ONLY thing you'll die for ( and still its suspect and subjective) There are way too many idiots to have a mentality of trying to intimidate people. Because, as we level up and reach great highs, our ( new) enemies and haters will have less and less too lose than us. Would you fight a crackhead who might stab you? Or a street guy who doesn't mind doing time? ANY phase of your life 20, 30, 40 or 50 will be vital to make the progress you need! No time to do time!

2 quotes:

1.I might be able to defeat another man with fisticuffs, but what about the legal consequences? Going to jail, getting fined and / or doing community service just because of my ego???

2.And secondly: even Joe Frazier (perhaps hardest hitting boxer ever) even said " I fear every man who got 2 hands".
 

BaronOfHair

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
There's truth to what you're saying. A man who exudes lethality alongside charm
gets the panties soaking
 

Desdinova

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?
You can do that just by standing your ground. People find me to be a nice fun interesting guy... until they try to take advantage of me. Then they quickly learn that I'm not Mr. Nice Doormat Guy. You can also relay that by putting others in their place when they're saying something dumb or getting carried away with something. Respect is earned and people will fear you once they learn that you don't tolerate disrespect.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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