"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Working on becoming a dangerous man, people respect and fear

jhonny9546

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gamisch

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
Hmm...

The problem with " being dangerous " is you get "one life" every time when you play. Most sane people will avoid such a man because they wanna continue living . This "honeybadger approach " is a dangerous game, and can easily go the wrong way for the protagonist of the story...

The most dangerous person is the man who fights for righteousness. That has to be the ONLY thing you'll die for ( and still its suspect and subjective) There are way too many idiots to have a mentality of trying to intimidate people. Because, as we level up and reach great highs, our ( new) enemies and haters will have less and less too lose than us. Would you fight a crackhead who might stab you? Or a street guy who doesn't mind doing time? ANY phase of your life 20, 30, 40 or 50 will be vital to make the progress you need! No time to do time!

2 quotes:

1.I might be able to defeat another man with fisticuffs, but what about the legal consequences? Going to jail, getting fined and / or doing community service just because of my ego???

2.And secondly: even Joe Frazier (perhaps hardest hitting boxer ever) even said " I fear every man who got 2 hands".
 

BaronOfHair

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?


I think men should have their weapons to be dangerous against other men:

a) to be able to defend themselves physically
b) to be able to defend themselves verbally
c) to gain respect with just a look or a behavior (like absence)


If there is one thing I've learn during those years, is that people only fear and respect what they care, but at the same time, what they fear.



In fact, you can see, for example, how women will respect a beta man and a criminal, even if he's their husband, equally.
But the point is, they won't respect the beta man, while they will respect the criminal, because they know he can do something crazy to their children, their finances, and their own life.

The same thing happens with men who, when they meet a dangerous guy, decide not to "play" with him, for fear he'll do "something."

Well, I think that's the kind of man I'd like to become, and the kind of man we should all aspire to be.
It's just a feeling people have about us, but our qualities—kindness, cheerfulness, openness, and sociability—should still remain.
There's truth to what you're saying. A man who exudes lethality alongside charm
gets the panties soaking
 

Desdinova

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I'm a very friendly, open, cheerful, charismatic guy, and if there's one thing I can't do completely well, it's making a switch, to make people understand that they have to respect me, or fear me.

You know when you're afraid to do something because that person might do something dangerous?
Exactly: dangerous.
But at the same time, not dangerous.
Do you understand what I mean?
You can do that just by standing your ground. People find me to be a nice fun interesting guy... until they try to take advantage of me. Then they quickly learn that I'm not Mr. Nice Doormat Guy. You can also relay that by putting others in their place when they're saying something dumb or getting carried away with something. Respect is earned and people will fear you once they learn that you don't tolerate disrespect.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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