martoslo
Don Juan
We all know girls who work in bars and similar public places gets hit on a lot, but what about the guys who work there? Does guys who work in bars get any extras through their work?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
working in a bar
- Thread starter martoslo
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
Probably. I'll let you know in couple of weeks. I got the corse complete, and as soon as my tonsillitis goes away i'm looking for a part time job as a bartender in the afternoon (yes, on top of the daytime job. I have a feeling I'll burn out in a week.
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)martoslo
Don Juan
Re: Re: working in a bar
Sounds good, I am starting to work as a bartender next week, just hearing if anyone have any good experiences with it.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
This doesn't necessarily make it easy when you're working. I work in a club myself. In the situation you describe it can be quite frustrating as i can often get chatting to a girl, have her flirting quite heavily with me and know that i could easily get into her and possibly fvck her if i was out, not working.
Then have to go get on with my work and later watch them find some other guy who is available to give them what they want that night.
Sure, you can number close them but 90% of the girls who flirt with you are either taken or looking for summat that night.
It'd probably be different tho in a pub/bar rather than a nightclub where the birds are pissed up and on the pull.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.