martoslo
Don Juan
We all know girls who work in bars and similar public places gets hit on a lot, but what about the guys who work there? Does guys who work in bars get any extras through their work?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
working in a bar
- Thread starter martoslo
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
Probably. I'll let you know in couple of weeks. I got the corse complete, and as soon as my tonsillitis goes away i'm looking for a part time job as a bartender in the afternoon (yes, on top of the daytime job. I have a feeling I'll burn out in a week.
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)martoslo
Don Juan
Re: Re: working in a bar
Sounds good, I am starting to work as a bartender next week, just hearing if anyone have any good experiences with it.
GodsGiftToFatBirds
Senior Don Juan
This doesn't necessarily make it easy when you're working. I work in a club myself. In the situation you describe it can be quite frustrating as i can often get chatting to a girl, have her flirting quite heavily with me and know that i could easily get into her and possibly fvck her if i was out, not working.
Then have to go get on with my work and later watch them find some other guy who is available to give them what they want that night.
Sure, you can number close them but 90% of the girls who flirt with you are either taken or looking for summat that night.
It'd probably be different tho in a pub/bar rather than a nightclub where the birds are pissed up and on the pull.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.