"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Workin on my text game with this chick in Boston

The Karate Kid

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ok, so im going to boston (live about an hour or so away) this weekend to see a buddy of mine. He goes to Umass- Boston, and has introduced me to a few ladies. I was texting a bit with one tonight, and i wanted to see what you guys thought of it.

im pretty sure this one has a solid chance of working out. I dont think she will flake, but she is a chick so who knows.

this starts after she said she wouldnt be around to come to a party saturday cuz her bro was coming home:

Me: That's cool, I was gonna have you make it up to me by hangin for a bit friday night, buuuuut nevermind. Perhaps another time.

Her: Whatcha doin friday?

Me: Tag along and see.

Her: Well It cant be too late!

Me: I can't make any promises

Her: Well I'll see... Give me a call

Me: Goodnight

Her: Goodnight call me friday

What are my odds of this going my way fellas?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I cant make any promises could have been subtitued with we'll see. not bad in my opinion. I dont dudes does he call or make the call?
 

Stéphane

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Wtf is this hanging out BS. Call her set a date time and location.
 

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hanging out takes the "pressure" of a date, it's more laid back.

i'd call her but first know what you're going to say on the call, and what you will say/do if she declines. but keep it short and tell her at the start "hey i cant talk for long, but.... etc etc"
 

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Need to cut the texting to unimportant random flirting. Stick to calling for the dates.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stéphane

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seano99 said:
hanging out takes the "pressure" of a date, it's more laid back.

i'd call her but first know what you're going to say on the call, and what you will say/do if she declines. but keep it short and tell her at the start "hey i cant talk for long, but.... etc etc"
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.
 

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Stéphane said:
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.
not sure about that, i guess it depends on the person.

i dont want to come across serious.. and it's only weak if you're all shy about it.

i'll always call it hanging out when i'm getting to know a girl. and it hasn't caused me any problems before. maybe our cities are different, i'm in australia
 

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Stéphane said:
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.

Not so sure about that. Dates tend to be a more formal and theres nothing weak with just wanting to have some fun. Maybe it depends on the individual and situation.
 
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