"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Workin on my text game with this chick in Boston

The Karate Kid

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ok, so im going to boston (live about an hour or so away) this weekend to see a buddy of mine. He goes to Umass- Boston, and has introduced me to a few ladies. I was texting a bit with one tonight, and i wanted to see what you guys thought of it.

im pretty sure this one has a solid chance of working out. I dont think she will flake, but she is a chick so who knows.

this starts after she said she wouldnt be around to come to a party saturday cuz her bro was coming home:

Me: That's cool, I was gonna have you make it up to me by hangin for a bit friday night, buuuuut nevermind. Perhaps another time.

Her: Whatcha doin friday?

Me: Tag along and see.

Her: Well It cant be too late!

Me: I can't make any promises

Her: Well I'll see... Give me a call

Me: Goodnight

Her: Goodnight call me friday

What are my odds of this going my way fellas?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I cant make any promises could have been subtitued with we'll see. not bad in my opinion. I dont dudes does he call or make the call?
 

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Wtf is this hanging out BS. Call her set a date time and location.
 

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hanging out takes the "pressure" of a date, it's more laid back.

i'd call her but first know what you're going to say on the call, and what you will say/do if she declines. but keep it short and tell her at the start "hey i cant talk for long, but.... etc etc"
 

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Need to cut the texting to unimportant random flirting. Stick to calling for the dates.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stéphane

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seano99 said:
hanging out takes the "pressure" of a date, it's more laid back.

i'd call her but first know what you're going to say on the call, and what you will say/do if she declines. but keep it short and tell her at the start "hey i cant talk for long, but.... etc etc"
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.
 

seano99

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Stéphane said:
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.
not sure about that, i guess it depends on the person.

i dont want to come across serious.. and it's only weak if you're all shy about it.

i'll always call it hanging out when i'm getting to know a girl. and it hasn't caused me any problems before. maybe our cities are different, i'm in australia
 

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Stéphane said:
Hanging out makes you sound weak, and not serious. You want a DATE not a hang out meeting like friends.

It also sounds like you can't take good decisions on things to do, and it actually adds pressure because instead of saying you want to go for coffee your making the actual meeting revolve around her.

Not so sure about that. Dates tend to be a more formal and theres nothing weak with just wanting to have some fun. Maybe it depends on the individual and situation.
 
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