"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm a recent college grad who just started a 9-5 type office job. I like the job alot, but it's cutting into my time to meet women. I'm at work all day, come home, eat, and hit the gym. (And don't say get a girl from the gym- I already have one :p)

I mean, weekends are great for meeting girls, but how do you guys with a "desk job" cope with picking up during the week?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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fender85

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Bro, I know where you're coming from. I'm on the M-F 8-5 corporate hell job as well. Damn sucks when you spend all day at work, you get home and you're tired and don't feel like doing much, plus in a few hours it's back to bed and you start all over again. Plus I currently live in a small town with pretty much NO hot women, so I only pick-up on the weekends when I go out of town.
 

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Pick up one of you local papers that focus on the city and the whatsgoingson. They are usually free. Usually stuff in the metro area.

Itd be interesting to get out and not do the usual night clubbing. These are where your more interesting girls are.

I strongly suggest finding more worldly girls, for better convo, usually not as *****ish (dont worry they still like sex).

Chicks who regular the club usually have nothing else to do, but talk about the club.

These chicks are usually more outgoing and more oblivious to the fact that you are running a pick up game, b/c your not in a club. You are in a gathering where you obviously have similar interests.

They usually seem pleased to talk to you and tell you about a particular piece. I swear these girls are always single. Maybe they are not attracted to the downtown hippies.
 

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COFFEE/NO-DOZ/REDBULL/ABANDON MY DAY GAME?

"I... just started a 9-5 type office job. I like the job alot, but it's cutting into my time to meet women. I'm at work all day, come home, eat, and hit the gym...how do you guys with a "desk job" cope with picking up during the week?

--Man, would I love to read a great answer to this one. I started a full time job that gets me up by 5:30 AM every morning. I am having a hard time adjusting since previously I worked a part time job for a number of months during the afternoon just prior to my new gig.

I'm having to learn and develop a nighttime game (bars not clubs which charge $20 covers and leave me with bleeding eardrums) and I feel like I'm starting all over from scratch now. I felt like I had developed great momentum during the day and then bam! I have to abandon my daytime strategies just like that! I dig the money, mind you, it's just that my mind says yes, but my body says: 'heeeey, slow down there buddy, wouldn't you rather sleep instead?' whenever I see a target I want to close.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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any place. Malls or downtown areas, wherever there are people walking around .
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I work a 9 to 5, I'm in school, I working on my residency and I play sports. That's why I use the Internet personals. You post a profile, check your emails during lunch and get together after work. The trick is having good qualifying skills and not believing all the detractors who haven't had success online.
 

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I agree...I'd love to see a good answer to this question. I'm up every morning at 6am for my 8-5 at the D.A.'s office, and then I'm usually at the gym after work.

The problem I've had meeting women outside of the traditional "club/bar" type settings is that I've seen very few women who are truly giving 'approachable' signs in settings like coffee shops and stores. 95% of the 'after work' approaches I've made recently have given off the "I'm hear trying to mind my business, so F-off" vibe.
 

OzyBoy

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I just got the same thing I'm starting a full time job soon probably 8-5 5-6 days a week but oh well i could do with the extra cash. I'm not looking for anyone but yeah i'm not going to have much time now.
 

Cloud-uk

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About twice a week I work from 10 til 9:30. I'm not sure if this is legal. I'm in the shop everyday until friday this week and I have parties every day too.

The answer?

Cocaine.

OR do the gym every second day. Personally I've just put together a two day routine for myself for the whole of summer. Day 1: gym fest related, Day 2: Buying food, keeping pad clean and picking up girls.

Maybe try to do something similar? Plan out a typical week and work out how you can best make time?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not Quite There

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i did a 9 to 5 last year for 9 months, but it wasnt 2 serious, just killing time until i went travelling, so i went out more than i did as a student, used to drink about 3/4 times a week! so met plenty of girls.

anyhow, just coming to the end of a masters degree and looking for a proper job come september, my plans for my evenings then are keep going to the gym like i do now, and maybe try and take a spanish class one night a week at a local college. Don't know if there will be many girls there, but you never know.
 
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