"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Uber noober

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So there is this girl I'm working with. Basically what Ive been doing is joking around with her, and teasing her from time to time. I get a good reaction, from her, for example, shes talking with some customers about some movie and I passed by and said "nobody cares" and she gave me that look like wtf but she was smiling. Then about 5 minutes later she came looking for me to tell me that: "I wasnt talking to you ok!?" and she was obviously embarassed. So Ive teased her like this a few times and made her crack up at my jokes too. Also I've tried ignoring her or just making it seem that I was too busy or had something on my mind or whatever the reason was i just wasnt treating her the same way with the teasing and joking. So how does this sound? I dont think its working because there are no signs that she likes me. Any help would be great.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Ask her for her number. Then you'll know if she likes you.
 

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby said:
Ask her for her number. Then you'll know if she likes you.
i dont want to do that because it would let her know that im interested in her.]

and not only that but if i do that i wouldnt be able to work on her anymore because i could get rejected, so she would know what'sup, you know? I want to get her to like me without giving her the ability to reject me.
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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What's wrong with showing interest? If you aren't willing to take the plunge then you won't find out. Better to get rejected than to completely miss an opportunity.

If you're still a little too shy to ask for her number, then you can try a few things to gauge her interest to build up your confidence.

Let her catch you checkin her out. Hold eye contact for a second and give kinda a half smile and look away. You can get a feel for her interest by how she reacts. If you feel good then wait for the right time and ask her if she wants to hang out some time. Doesn't have to be anything too nuts.

High school girls like a MAN who takes ACTION.
 
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