"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So there is this girl I'm working with. Basically what Ive been doing is joking around with her, and teasing her from time to time. I get a good reaction, from her, for example, shes talking with some customers about some movie and I passed by and said "nobody cares" and she gave me that look like wtf but she was smiling. Then about 5 minutes later she came looking for me to tell me that: "I wasnt talking to you ok!?" and she was obviously embarassed. So Ive teased her like this a few times and made her crack up at my jokes too. Also I've tried ignoring her or just making it seem that I was too busy or had something on my mind or whatever the reason was i just wasnt treating her the same way with the teasing and joking. So how does this sound? I dont think its working because there are no signs that she likes me. Any help would be great.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ask her for her number. Then you'll know if she likes you.
 

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby said:
Ask her for her number. Then you'll know if she likes you.
i dont want to do that because it would let her know that im interested in her.]

and not only that but if i do that i wouldnt be able to work on her anymore because i could get rejected, so she would know what'sup, you know? I want to get her to like me without giving her the ability to reject me.
 

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What's wrong with showing interest? If you aren't willing to take the plunge then you won't find out. Better to get rejected than to completely miss an opportunity.

If you're still a little too shy to ask for her number, then you can try a few things to gauge her interest to build up your confidence.

Let her catch you checkin her out. Hold eye contact for a second and give kinda a half smile and look away. You can get a feel for her interest by how she reacts. If you feel good then wait for the right time and ask her if she wants to hang out some time. Doesn't have to be anything too nuts.

High school girls like a MAN who takes ACTION.
 
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