"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Work/gym game?

Bryce556

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So im a personal trainer/ weight room attendant. nice job while i go to school. and i recently got laid off from the gym i was working at, that gym was mostly guys and body buliders and stuff. Then i got hired at a huge rec center the city operates.

I was walking around cleaning the bikes the other night and this HB was doing crunches and planks and stuff saw her looking at me, so i said hi and she pretty much opened me. we got to chatting, she said she worked on their occasionaly too doing skating supervison for the kids. now the point of this post is that i was at work, and that interaction went well she even told me whens shes their and asked when i work, stoped by my desk to say bye when she left. but i dident go for the number. hopfully i see her again.

If i wasent at work i would have gone for the number but at this new rec center their is a tons of girls my age not just rich old ppl and body buliders like my old gym. How do I game chicks at work/the gym, I dont want to get complanits against me or look like im just their picking up chicks and not working? girls here seem to be more open to talking to me then the guys working out at the gym but im usually just professional, ive seen opther trainer or sales guys that get all the girls or numbers all the time. what do i do?

i dont usually even try gaming girls when im working out, but at this place its so distracting especially when i get alot of girls obviously checking me out while i work.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Iceberg

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You could always just invite them to "hang out". Which indicates that you want to chill with them outside of the gym, but it's not as "sexual harassment" as asking them on a date.

You're talking about your fun weekend. Then you're saying, "I saw a great show at X Bar. You might like this band. Come check it out with me next week." It's not overtly sexual to the point where you'd get fired or reported. And it's friendly and inviting.

Other people might have different advice, but this works for me. If a girl agrees to "hang out" with me, it's kind of an unspoken agreement that I'm gonna try to hook up with her.
 

rushing dude 123

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Iceberg had a good suggestion.

To be honest in my opinion, i don't think it is a good idea. You shouldn't mix work and pleasure, maybe if it was a bar or something, but not a gym they regularly come in. I used to work in a gym as a fitness instructor and as soon as i made a single move, it somehow spread through the whole gym floor but it didn't really matter its just talk at the end of the day.

If you are going to do it, try to go for quality and quantity, because its very easy to just make loads of moves and get some numbers along with crash and burns. So instead build a continous rapport with some really nice HB's (this looks even good to your manager, shows you care for your "client", so it dosn't hurt the rep) and pick a couple you like the most and make a move. As long as your not doing it consistently it's not to bad, your only human and it is your right.

Also another note, ask them on what they are planning in future, i do this to any work colleague i find attrative. So if they are planning on leaving gym or are going back to there country in like 1 month or something else. Then you can time your actions and ask at the right time. I do this and it works quite well, so that way you don't have to worry if it messes up because u don't see them again.

Last bit of advice, there is billions of girls in the world just walking around you everywhere bus stops, parks, other side of road, coffe shops, shopping centres, trains, sitting on a bench, working in shops etc... These are your best targets in my opinion. The best girl to hit on is a stranger, if it ****s up no need to worry about it you will never see her again and if it ends badly she can't exactlly bad mouth you to anyone you know seeing she dosn't know you. Personal training is a good and rewardful career and relys a lot on word of mouth, so just be careful if you do decide to do it in the work place.
 
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