Went out with this chick about 2 years ago. Get dinner and go back to my place after to Netflix and chill and maybe 10 min into the movie she decides she’s gotta go lol ghosted/friend zoned me after that.
Now today she started working for me. Just messaged me after her first day and sends this message. Can’t make this sht up. Basically went on to say now that I’m her boss the idea of being with me seems more exciting. Those aren’t her words but just pretty much what she was thinking without saying it out right.
As a recovering nice guy (I was raised to be a “nice” boy ) I always am trying to be aware how I treat a woman. I sometimes have to make an effort to not be so nice . Guys let’s hear some examples of ways you can be too nice and what you can do instead (before you’re in a relationship)
I’ll start:
-buying her things
-complimenting her excessively
-over texting
As a recovering nice guy (I was raised to be a “nice” boy ) I always am trying to be aware how I treat a woman. I sometimes have to make an effort to not be so nice . Guys let’s hear some examples of ways you can be too nice and what you can do instead (before you’re in a relationship)
I’ll start:
-buying her things
-complimenting her excessively
-over texting
I don’t do any of that. My niceness takes the form of engaging them in good conversations. I’ve had more than a few girls tell me on dates “you’re such a good conversationalist!” ”I feel like we have this amazing connection” Only to never hear from them again. So I try not to be too conversational anymore
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Agreed about the nice guy thing but the reason for that is because my first thought is always “how will this action affect my business”. So ya there’s a lot of things I could do different but then word gets around “that guy dk from that business is such a dbag womanizer”.
I don’t do any of that. My niceness takes the form of engaging them in good conversations. I’ve had more than a few girls tell me on dates “you’re such a good conversationalist!” ”I feel like we have this amazing connection” Only to never hear from them again. So I try not to be too conversational anymore
There is a huge difference to between being nice in business and being professional in business and guess what?
Nice guys always get scre'wed too in business and finish last.
Don't sh1t where you eat. I really hope you don't engage her down this path. I would make a polite reply "not to worry about it" and simply go about your business (literally). There are so many other women in the world - you don't need the drama that could come with trying to bang an employee. Not to mention that if she ghosted once it is likely to happen again once she sees she has you on the hook. Don't give her the chance.
Your right. That stuff has nothing to do with attraction. But can be the difference between you ending up fvcking the girl whose not comfortable sleeping with you the same day she met you or not.
You guys are so off the mark about conversation. Conversation is the golden ticket to success with women.
However, a man needs to learn to calibrate and leverage his conversation.
Never forget this: Women are aurally stimulated. Men are visually stimulated.
Men also need to learn that in conversation, direction of energy flow is important. Direct the conversation while still appearing to listen to her. To direct the conversation, one only need only to keep things light and have fun, while punctuating that fun vibe with some serious subjects periodically (which demonstrates you have substance and a good head on your shoulders).
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You guys are so off the mark about conversation. Conversation is the golden ticket to success with women.
However, a man needs to learn to calibrate and leverage his conversation.
Never forget this: Women are aurally stimulated. Men are visually stimulated.
