I've always thought it interesting how women immediately know, simply by looking at another woman, whether that other woman "outranks" them in a sociological sense.
For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.
Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.
Women may sometimes like to pretend, with men, that there are other things that are important, but in reality they know. Looks are it.
This has always interested me because it's so alien to my experiences with men. I mean yes, when I see a guy who's taller and more handsome than I, I figure that he likely "outranks" me, but if we start talking and he's a dolt, or a pansy, or a buffoon, or really broke with a crap job, those things change that initial impression and I "rerank" him in my head.
So my question is, is there a site, or a blog, or an essay, or anything at all on the 'net that discusses what goes on in a woman's head when she's "sussing out" another woman? Where women discuss, candidly, what that's like. This would be fascinating to me.
I'm not really looking for speculation from men here as to what they think it might be like to be a woman, I'm looking for links only. thx.
For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.
Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.
Women may sometimes like to pretend, with men, that there are other things that are important, but in reality they know. Looks are it.
This has always interested me because it's so alien to my experiences with men. I mean yes, when I see a guy who's taller and more handsome than I, I figure that he likely "outranks" me, but if we start talking and he's a dolt, or a pansy, or a buffoon, or really broke with a crap job, those things change that initial impression and I "rerank" him in my head.
So my question is, is there a site, or a blog, or an essay, or anything at all on the 'net that discusses what goes on in a woman's head when she's "sussing out" another woman? Where women discuss, candidly, what that's like. This would be fascinating to me.
I'm not really looking for speculation from men here as to what they think it might be like to be a woman, I'm looking for links only. thx.