"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Women's social hierarchy talk?

Zarky

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I've always thought it interesting how women immediately know, simply by looking at another woman, whether that other woman "outranks" them in a sociological sense.

For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.

Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.

Women may sometimes like to pretend, with men, that there are other things that are important, but in reality they know. Looks are it.

This has always interested me because it's so alien to my experiences with men. I mean yes, when I see a guy who's taller and more handsome than I, I figure that he likely "outranks" me, but if we start talking and he's a dolt, or a pansy, or a buffoon, or really broke with a crap job, those things change that initial impression and I "rerank" him in my head.

So my question is, is there a site, or a blog, or an essay, or anything at all on the 'net that discusses what goes on in a woman's head when she's "sussing out" another woman? Where women discuss, candidly, what that's like. This would be fascinating to me.

I'm not really looking for speculation from men here as to what they think it might be like to be a woman, I'm looking for links only. thx.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BobMo'

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There is an essay about this. It's something like (top to botom)

Married woman with kids
Married woman
Engaged
Single
Widowed
Divorced
Stripper
Hooker
 

Ease

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Zarky said:
For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.

Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.
Thats not true, we are exactly the same.

It's a very good observation, everything you describe is correct, but the same in both females and males.

They judge by looks, we judge by alphaness. Immediately in a social situation you can tell if the guy is of a similiar level, above, or below us.
 

Warrior74

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Depends on the situation. He can look like a model, but if we are on a battle feild and doesn't know which way is downrange, hes a retard and worthless. if he can lead a charge over a hill and rally the troops and turn the tide of a battle. He's the man.

If your in a night club, then pretty boy is probably the man there.

Women's looks only get them a shot at the man. The better looking, the better shot they have.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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