Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Women's social hierarchy talk?

Zarky

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I've always thought it interesting how women immediately know, simply by looking at another woman, whether that other woman "outranks" them in a sociological sense.

For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.

Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.

Women may sometimes like to pretend, with men, that there are other things that are important, but in reality they know. Looks are it.

This has always interested me because it's so alien to my experiences with men. I mean yes, when I see a guy who's taller and more handsome than I, I figure that he likely "outranks" me, but if we start talking and he's a dolt, or a pansy, or a buffoon, or really broke with a crap job, those things change that initial impression and I "rerank" him in my head.

So my question is, is there a site, or a blog, or an essay, or anything at all on the 'net that discusses what goes on in a woman's head when she's "sussing out" another woman? Where women discuss, candidly, what that's like. This would be fascinating to me.

I'm not really looking for speculation from men here as to what they think it might be like to be a woman, I'm looking for links only. thx.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BobMo'

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There is an essay about this. It's something like (top to botom)

Married woman with kids
Married woman
Engaged
Single
Widowed
Divorced
Stripper
Hooker
 

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Zarky said:
For men, we need to figure out not only what the guy looks like, but also his wealth, his occupation, his education, his past, alllll sorts of things.... before we know whether he "outranks" us.

Yet for women, there's really only one variable, which can be deduced immediately: their looks. The more physically attractive one always outranks the other (unless there's something god-awful wrong with her like a major speech impediment or club-foot or something). So as soon as two women meet, they know where they stand vis-a-vis each other, instantaneously.
Thats not true, we are exactly the same.

It's a very good observation, everything you describe is correct, but the same in both females and males.

They judge by looks, we judge by alphaness. Immediately in a social situation you can tell if the guy is of a similiar level, above, or below us.
 

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Depends on the situation. He can look like a model, but if we are on a battle feild and doesn't know which way is downrange, hes a retard and worthless. if he can lead a charge over a hill and rally the troops and turn the tide of a battle. He's the man.

If your in a night club, then pretty boy is probably the man there.

Women's looks only get them a shot at the man. The better looking, the better shot they have.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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