Women's Sexual Past

[ZEUS 83]

You guys are crazy.

If she hasn't had kids, hasn't gotten an STD... tell me what is the difference between a girl thats slept with 3 guys and one that's slept with 60?

I can't think of any. Sounds like mental issues to me, and that's your problem; not hers.

Now do I WANT to know my girls sexual history? That's another matter entirely. I'd say you are better off just not knowing, as it's completely irrelevant to your relationship.

I'll tell you one thing, I have never met a virgin or girl who slept with a small number of guys that was interesting at all. If a girl is fun to be around, chances are she isn't a virgin. Now if you want some wallflower girlfriend that just sits there drinking wine and watching tv with you every day, go ahead and be my guest... go date those girls. Personally, I like girls that are exciting like me... pretty much none of them have commendable sexual pasts.

Well its not about how many guys she slept with, its about the moral standard she has, because if she views sex as a sport then thats not the women any guy wanna be with (to my knowledge), esp if u c her as ur life partner, just like the analogy of a sport car, if every one drives a Ferrari would it be special to own one?? the answer is No. im experiencing the same feelings with my girlfriend. She slept with so many guys, was drunk and used to have sex on the beach....etc of her dirty stuff, initially she didnt mention anything abt it, but later on the dirty stuff started to slip from her mouth and i coudlnt get those images out from my mind, i have read so many articles that says "past is past", but this is only applicable when u slept with so many girls also and u dont care, honestly i feel inferior to her past. and im so confused whether to break up with her because of her past or try to cope with it, because i love her and she is fun to be with.

 

[DonJuan11]

In my humble opinion... attitudes towards casual sex do not necessarily have anything to do with attitudes towards relationships.

Also, I think that a woman who is experienced and knows what is out there, is LESS likely to stray in a relationship. She's already done the sleeping around thing, she's gotten it out of her system, she's ready to "settle down". And she knows she not missing out on anything, because she's been there, done that. A girl with a less experienced past, might someday in her relationship with you realize "wow I haven't experienced any other guys... I have no idea what else is out there"... Think about it. It can go either way.

That's why guys just want one thing from girls and nothing else. They think "You took 5 seconds to sleep with him when you were younger and now you want me spend 6 months of my money, time and effort to sleep with you because you are a little older and got it out of your system? I'd like to tell you where to go."

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

That's why guys just want one thing from girls and nothing else. They think "You took 5 seconds to sleep with him when you were younger and now you want me spend 6 months of my money, time and effort to sleep with you because you are a little older and got it out of your system? I'd like to tell you where to go."

You can't always blame the woman in situations like that. If the guy presents himself as a provider to win her over, why shouldn't she hold out for a long time? Like it or not, if he's willing to provide fabulous gifts and prizes for six months and all she needs to do is not sleep with him, well...

 

[DonJuan11]

You can't always blame the woman in situations like that. If the guy presents himself as a provider to win her over, why shouldn't she hold out for a long time? Like it or not, if he's willing to provide fabulous gifts and prizes for six months and all she needs to do is not sleep with him, well...

The point was not understanding why women get upset when all the guy wants to do is have sex after 1 date. Well of course. The guy doesn't want to feel inferior since the last guy she slept with took her 30 seconds to decide. They can't take 30 seconds to decide to sleep with guy number 1,2,3, and 4, and then expect guy 5 to wait a long time, otherwise he'll dump her fast.