"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Womens Past

would it change your mind from dating her >

  • Yes,

    Votes: 10 55.6%
  • no .

    Votes: 8 44.4%

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Alen-Delon

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Hi i have question? if you meet a charming , good looking, nice, down to earth kinda girl... and you think that you ll have a great LTR with her... but then soon you find out that her past is not very pleasent... it could be.. she was on drugs, or was heavy drinker... had slept with tons of guys etc.... would it stop you from dating her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So long as she is clean now I don't care.
 

italostud

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You can look at it two ways:

Some guys think you should leave the past in the past and not really worry about it

However,

I tend to believe that history repeats itself and you should AT LEAST look into a girl's past and consider it.

For instance, if you found out that your new GF has cheated on every single guy she's gone out with in her past, would you say "I don't care about her past, I live in the present!" or would it make you stand back and think?
 

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As long as it doesn't repeat itself or interfere with the present / the future or indirectly affect you in a harmful way (your health ;)).
 

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Of course every situation is different, the one you mention is actually acceptable to me. Most women don't just end relationships without a backup. They end them when someone they like better comes along so of course they are going to cheat.

If they cheated casually on every boyfriend they have ever had than that is a different story.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Frank Zappa

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Originally posted by italostud

I tend to believe that history repeats itself and you should AT LEAST look into a girl's past and consider it.
From experience, believe me, history almost always repeats itself. Although people can change their image and who they think they are real easily; changing themselves usually is a long and arduous process.

In other words, people hardly change, their true character tends to always rear itself in the end. Always remember to keep your guard up or a slightly weary eye... at least for a while. Sometimes it takes days, sometimes months, sometimes even years... Don't believe everything she claims and says so easily... even though it may sound good and reassuring. ~Zappa
 

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History comes back to bite you. I learned that the hard way.

But hey, your call.
 

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Generally, people tend to have certain philosophical mindsets towards life, and unless they suddenly go into some sort of brainwashing program or conversion to Buddhism, they will keep that mindset.

For example, a crook who robs the bank to buy himself a brand new car or indulges in his robbery has the mindset. Maybe he got caught and can't do it again, or maybe he hasn't found another good bank. But he WILL do it again if given the opportunity.

Similiarly I find women who've cheated deliberately on their boyfriend will do it again given the circumstances.


Focus on the intent, not the actions.
 

Alen-Delon

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acctualy my queston tends more towards her past such as not exactly cheating on her bf but having an unpleasent past... it doesnt neceserly has to be cheating it could be drug addiction... sleeping with lot of guys etc...
 

chicksrock

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dude...if you think you can do better...

get out there and do better

otherwise be cautious...and go by instinct whether you want to keep this girl..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alen-Delon

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hey this question is not related to my situation... i was just wondering what people think... thats all

PEACE !!
 

SageOFAllenAge

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My own past would influence my decision too
 
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