"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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women with passions/obsessions maybe

pyros

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So, have you ever met a woman that had a hobby or something that looked like an obsession?

For example, Im seing a 24 yo chick that is really into salsa. I am also a salsa dancer but this girl seems obessed with it. For example, I may go to dance once or twice a week, and I may also go to my weekly salsa class, but this girl...she's been dancing for 5 years now. She goes out to dance two or three times per week, and she doesnt just go there for an hour or two like I do, she goes and she dances for 4-5 hours, each time.
Besides, she helps a friend of hers who is a salsa teacher because she is his dancing partner, so she also goes to 'teach' salsa a few times a week. I think she spends around 15 hours each week dancing salsa.
She also likes to go to the gym a lot, to all the activities like zumba, aerobic, spining...and she goes almost everyday for one or two hours.

She has huge energy, a very high libido, and she sleeps little, around 6-7 hours a day. Besides, she is finishing a master degree now. She reminds me of a terminatrix really...it seems she never runs out of energy.

Normally I am suspicious about a person who is way too keen on something, I mean when it reaches the obsession limit...ppl with obsessions are unstable in my opinion.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Willard

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Sounds like you found yourself a great girl, she must have a great body. Dancing, exercising and studying are her main focus, not out drinking and partying with her friends.
 

pyros

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but she just dances way too much, as I wrote, it's like an obsession. She thinks about salsa all the time, and she actually 'needs' it to feel fine.
Last Friday we went to dance with some friends at 24:00h. I left at 03:00h, she left at 05:00h. On Saturday we had secs several times and she wanted more. At night we went to dance salsa for two hours, and today she went with her friends to dance more and she also taught salsa for two hours in the evening.

I think she is hyperactive, and this is why she needs to go to dance so much, go to aerobic, bodycombat, spining..., and have so much secs.
She has a normal body, because it seems half a year ago she was kind of chubby. Now she is a bit too thin. Sometimes I think that she dances so much, and goes to the gym so much because she doesn't want to be chubby anymore.

It may sound cool, but she just cant chill and do nothing...
 

Willard

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There are worse problems to have with a girl, you must not like her that much if that bothers you. You can treat her like a FWB and not take her seriously. What do you care about what she does with her time when she's not with you? I don't care what girls I date are doing when they aren't with me, unless I thought they might be banging other dude's.

Do you enjoy salsa? Can you go with her? If you get great at Salsa dancing, you can get lots of girls when you go out to clubs and dance. Letting a girls harmless social activities bother you seems like a waste of energy to me.
 

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Her doing salsa dancing all the time should be the least of your worries. I'd be more worried if she was always out hanging with dudes or going out clubbing or partying.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think she's a great girl. Sounds a lot better than some deadbeat girls I've seen who aren't in school, work a dead end job and their hobby is gossiping and causing drama.
 
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