Women willfully avoid/ignore DJ men

[jhonny9546]

Attractive DJ men tend to be ignored and avoided by women in specific context, lets say in familiar social settings.

There are some single men who are very attractive, both physically and in the way they behave, or by the credentials they have, like social proof, validation, halo, etc.

We're talking about contexts where 80% of the women are already in a relationship, married, or married with children.
So imagine 30s and up.

They tend to be avoided, or women try to stay away from them while observing them from a distance, or women leave them small signs of plausible deniability (like when I saw with my own eyes this busy woman compliment this handsome single guy "nice shoes" while sitting next to her husband.
The way she said it made her intentions clear).

That said, what has been your experience when it comes to attractive, high-quality men whom women consider handsome and would pursue, but in certain contexts, even if attracted, women go to great lengths to avoid/hide their interest, to the point of completely ignoring their presence, while observing from afar?

And so, if any of you had the opportunity to see women's behavior change, and the treatment they received, simply based on how the social setting changed (for example, going from a family or friends party to a party on the beach, same woman, different situation)

It's said that whatever the situation and setting, there's always an opportunity for a true DJ, but I believe that on the other hand, there must also be an openness due to the scene.

 

[OngBak]

I still have that experience, and its true. If someone denies that, I know certainly that Person is not an attractive high value Guy at all.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@jhonny9546 "We're talking about contexts where 80% of the women are already in a relationship, married, or married with children.
So imagine 30s and up"

YMMV... Lots of married women with kids flirt with not only me, but many fellas in my immediate orbit. Same way lots of married men with kids still flirt with women who ain't their wives, especially at the bar or when out of town alone

We're all human beings who crave variety

 

[Gamisch]

Because some woman might ( I said MIGHT) see a man and know right away that he will be " trouble".

Especially when your aura / energy is "assertive ". Some women can't afford that man to make her blush or feel any kinda way.

A non threatening man ( think overweight social awkward neck beard) might have easier access to her, and we as men can find that annoying to see a man with a seemingly lower smv having easier access.

Thats why you might wanna mirror a woman's energy sometimes. If she ignores you igoner her back

 

[Redwood]

Because some woman might ( I said MIGHT) see a man and know right away that he will be " trouble".

Especially when your aura / energy is "assertive ". Some women can't afford that man to make her blush or feel any kinda way.

A non threatening man ( think overweight social awkward neck beard) might have easier access to her, and we as men can find that annoying to see a man with a seemingly lower smv having easier access.

Thats why you might wanna mirror a woman's energy sometimes. If she ignores you igoner her back

Good short term wise, kinda terrible long term wise. It just keeps the cycle going.

 

[Gamisch]

Good short term wise, kinda terrible long term wise. It just keeps the cycle going.

Why ?

Im not spending energy on a woman who ignores me for whatever reason. Plenty of fish in the sea.

I dont wanna be the " Indian man sees blonde woman for the first time " type of man. Been with and will be with plenty of women, no need to spend energy on a woman who makes it clear she has zero interest.

I work hard to be the prize, and its on the woman to give me an opening and something to work with. For real.

 

[OngBak]

Why ?

Im not spending energy on a woman who ignores me for whatever reason. Plenty of fish in the sea.

I dont wanna be the " Indian man sees blonde woman for the first time " type of man. Been with and will be with plenty of women, no need to spend energy on a woman who makes it clear she has zero interest.

I work hard to be the prize, and its on the woman to give me an opening and something to work with. For real.

Because majority of the woman are like that when you have that energy. I experience it a lot, so i know they try to hide their attraction. What can help sometimes is to reach out for legitimate reasons, be friendly and kind, and offer some sort of value without expecting anything in return. It helps, because it shows you are willing to invest, but not supplicate. Its the one balance i figured out that works, but not always

 

[Gamisch]

Because majority of the woman are like that when you have that energy. I experience it a lot, so i know they try to hide their attraction. What can help sometimes is to reach out for legitimate reasons, be friendly and kind, and offer some sort of value without expecting anything in return. It helps, because it shows you are willing to invest, but not supplicate. Its the one balance i figured out that works, but not always

I agree that sometimes we as men need to push the envelope a bit .

But at the same time you have to know when to cut it. It's a delicate process.

And to actually go a bit deeper; imo women ALWAYS are the ones who start the seduction process. If she sees a man she likes AND she is available she will make it known even if its via body language.

Personally I simply demand a woman puts in some sort of effort so I can work with it. If she doesn't, that's cool. There will be another one who will, and I say that as a man who experienced it countless if times.

Both statements can be true and can work by the way.

 

[Redwood]

Why ?

Im not spending energy on a woman who ignores me for whatever reason. Plenty of fish in the sea.

I dont wanna be the " Indian man sees blonde woman for the first time " type of man. Been with and will be with plenty of women, no need to spend energy on a woman who makes it clear she has zero interest.

I work hard to be the prize, and its on the woman to give me an opening and something to work with. For real.

You kinda agreed with what I said ironically.