Women will not choose the man who makes them live "the emotional rollercoaster", but rather, the one who gives them a lifestyle

[jhonny9546]

Contrary to popular belief, in the long run, in our modern society, women don't choose the man who creates emotional turbulence, they choose the man who provides stability, direction, and a life worth sharing

What do I mean by this?

Women go for a man who's solid, who can offer them a lifestyle, and the emotions she'll have will come from the experiences that lifestyle allows, such as travel, personalized experiences, more time for herself, having to work less, taking care of the family, etc.
Yes, sometimes she might feel like she's not having "s3x life" satysfied, and seek "those emotional experiences" with other men outside the relationship. But that is a momentary need. He will put that desire/need aside, and she'll always come back and always choose the reliable, solid, stable, wealthy man, as her life partner.

Of course, one-size-fits-all packages exist, and I think we all want to work to become that man, but it's almost more rare than unique.
That man who both makes her feel emotions and can provide everything else is 1 in 100 million.
I wish everyone here to become that one.

Btw, curious to hear your experience on this!

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

brah how many topics are you gonna make

 

[zekko]

Contrary to popular belief, in the long run, in our modern society, women don't choose the man who creates emotional turbulence, they choose the man who provides stability, direction, and a life worth sharing

Well, some women are just stump stupid. But those gals aside, I tend to agree, the stable guy wins in the end.
But in the PUA community, guys aren't looking to be chosen long term, they just want the quick and dirty unstable sex.
Also, by the time a lot of these women reach these conclusions, they're out of the 18-24 age zone that are the focus of PUA types.

 

[Solomon]

It depends I notice some women love chaos and will knowingly choose a FBOY because of the "tingles" or "Spark" The reality is once you've heard the sob stories hundreds of times you realize those type of women aren't victims but they love those type of men because they aren't women of good character themselves

Women who look for stable men early on I think is because of security or because they saw how their fathers treated their mothers and thus want to emulate that lifestyle

 

[Gamisch]

brah how many topics are you gonna make

And never come back to them neither. At least have the decency to keep a thread alive, or thoroughly adress the responses.

It's nice that someone takes the initiative to come up with threads, but now they seem like loose brain brainfarts.

 

[jhonny9546]

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It depends I notice some women love chaos and will knowingly choose a FBOY because of the "tingles" or "Spark" The reality is once you've heard the sob stories hundreds of times you realize those type of women aren't victims but they love those type of men because they aren't women of good character themselves

Women who look for stable men early on I think is because of security or because they saw how their fathers treated their mothers and thus want to emulate that lifestyle

Well said! The same happen for those women who love the Spark..
We might want to look at her father and what kind of respect is He getting from her Wife.

Is that respect coming from a position of fear or being cheated on?
Or maybe from the fact He employ her?
Or maybe that she is poor and doesnt have a house to go?
Or maybe that she has fear of being alone?

I think that women actually see "how/what my mother respect my father for?"

 

[jhonny9546]

Brah, how many topics are you going to make?

If they're useful for the discussion regarding the attitudinal and discussed topics, enough.

And never come back to them either. At least have the decency to keep a thread alive, or thoroughly address the responses.

Mate, you know. I always do it, I come and reply to every topic, I take my time replying.

 

[BadBoy89]

brah how many topics are you gonna make

I think it’s 228 threads started.

All theory. No field reports.

 

[zekko]

It depends I notice some women love chaos and will knowingly choose a FBOY because of the "tingles" or "Spark"

This is common, but I think the point is that some of these women learn from these encounters that these guys aren't the smartest choice. I mean, I could make just as bad dating choices as a man, but I've learned not to. And some women, as you say, just have bad character.

Penny on Big Bang Theory is an example. At some point early on in the show she says something like why does she keep dating jerks when it always ends badly, maybe she should date nicer guys. To which Leonard volunteers to date her as a nice guy, and although she seems a bit taken aback, she agrees. And eventually, if you've ever watched the series, they get married, even though I never got the impression she loved him all that much. Not long before they got married, she was still thinking of dumping him. Leonard was one of the biggest simps on TV.

 

[jhonny9546]

@zekko i can see that example in real life, and i can confirm, that as soon as penny encounter a man that actually arouse her, she would put leonard into the bin

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Italianas experience an emotional rollercoaster everyday by virtue of their ethnicity. Of course it will be less of a novelty for them. Other women are indeed susceptible to it.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

brah how many topics are you gonna make

Millions until he leaves his home country and realizes that was the source of his confusion. The advice on this board is regarding largely non-Italian women.

 

[zekko]

@zekko i can see that example in real life, and i can confirm, that as soon as penny encounter a man that actually arouse her, she would put leonard into the bin

That's what I thought too, which is one thing that bugged me about that series. In fact, she basically did, like when the chad-like physicist visited, she forgot all about Leonard immediately. But he turned out to be married, so she broke it off. Some girls have a modicum of sense. Still, it was a convenient relationship on her part, since they were neighbors, and he did everything for her, so I could see it happening.

Women were always scoping on Leonard on the show, although who knows why? Like Judy Greer, and Sheldon's assistant Alex.

 

[jhonny9546]

Millions until he leaves his home country and realizes that was the source of his confusion. The advice on this board is regarding largely non-Italian women.

Thanks for this, I realize that.

That said, I've always liked exceptions to the rules.

Also I don't think that changing places will solve all your problems

 

[Divorced w 3]

What you’re describing as the idea lifestyle will be interpreted by many as boredom solved with expensive, infrequent moments of escape. It’s literally been described as the downfall of the American housewife. It doesn’t take a lot of money to stay interesting on a regular basis. I just went to a country line dancing event last night with my girl which was a riot. She wore her cowgirl outfit boots included. I fvcked her in her dress. Cost $11 to park. Easy Thursday night.

 

[jhonny9546]

I really understand what you mean.
All it takes is "creating that experience" for her...
Narcissists are really good at this. It comes naturally to them, which is why women, when they meet these men, have a hard time being with anyone else.
They don't just do it with women; they do it with everyone in their lives.

That said... even if you manage to do it... and you can't provide her with the lifestyle, it means this country line dancing event thing will happen again, and the cause of variety will eventually lead her to abandon you.
I've seen this happen with many friends.
While we're on the subject, please tell us more about your views on this.
For example, you mention a frequency issue, as if there's a certain point of no return where you realize a person is bored (and these days, social media doesn't help; women simply want too much).


@Divorced w 3
For example

It’s literally been described as the downfall of the American housewife

I've never heard that what does that mean?

 

[Divorced w 3]

I really understand what you mean.
All it takes is "creating that experience" for her...
Narcissists are really good at this. It comes naturally to them, which is why women, when they meet these men, have a hard time being with anyone else.
They don't just do it with women; they do it with everyone in their lives.

That said... even if you manage to do it... and you can't provide her with the lifestyle, it means this country line dancing event thing will happen again, and the cause of variety will eventually lead her to abandon you.
I've seen this happen with many friends.
While we're on the subject, please tell us more about your views on this.
For example, you mention a frequency issue, as if there's a certain point of no return where you realize a person is bored (and these days, social media doesn't help; women simply want too much).


@Divorced w 3
For example


I've never heard that what does that mean?

Idk what you mean here at all. It’s fun to travel but it’s also fun just to do things low key. It’s called going out. History is full of instances where the broke exciting guy got the girl over steady Eddie.