Women who like you will initially give you qualities they want...its your job to...

[BackInTheGame78]

not give them a reason to believe any differently.

For instance, a woman I posted about in a previous thread is all about me. She has given me the following qualities in her mind without me saying anything: I'm busy, I have lots of other women that I have sex with, and I'm a "bad boy".

These are all good things, btw. Your only job in the first stages of getting to know a women is to not screw up and prove any of these wrong. Too many guys open their mouths and say things like "Oh, I don't have any other women, blah blah blah" or "I'm not really a bad boy", etc thinking they are earning brownie points with her. You aren't. You are killing the fantasy of YOU playing in her mind while you are away or unavailable and not texting her, etc during these initial stages. She is imagining all these fun things you are doing...women you are banging...you being too busy for her, etc...she is doing her version of "chasing". If you don't let her chase long enough you show yourself unworthy. No one worth chasing would let themselves be caught so easily.

She has already conferred things on you that may or may not be true...this happens when someone likes another person...they give them qualities they may not have. Run with this! You don't even have to admit to it if you don't want to, SAY NOTHING! This makes it so she can continue playing this fantasy of you right into your bedroom and then once you rail her enough she can see more of the real side of you without losing attraction because she has a deeper connection with you through sex.

So many guys don't understand this and screw things up initially with women by killing their fantasy of you. Don't do this. Let her dream up your awesomeness all she wants. It will get you laid a LOT.

 

[Tenacity]

Yeah but I don't over-analyze on stuff like this.

I'm not a "bad boy", I can be an arrogant prick at times, but in terms of the definition of bad boy/thug (at least from the black community standpoint) I'm NOT that. And the last thing I want to do is be some Wanksta (guy who pretends to be some gangsta or bad a.ss that he's not).

I am who I am, sometimes I'm nice, sometimes I'm mean, sometimes I'm happy, sometimes I'm sad. I'm a damn human being. If the chick you are dealing with wants to date some image out of a romantic novel, then she should go back to her romance novel.

I think you guys really put too much thought into this. Just fix your looks, fix your personality, fix your money, and meet new women often. Spin plates until they fall off. Be in a relationship with her until it turns sour. That's it.

Sometimes you will have a girl be with you for a long period of time (let's say over 5 years), sometimes she will only be with you for one night.....it's the GAME guys.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah but I don't over-analyze on stuff like this.

I'm not a "bad boy", I can be an arrogant prick at times, but in terms of the definition of bad boy/thug (at least from the black community standpoint) I'm NOT that. And the last thing I want to do is be some Wanksta (guy who pretends to be some gangsta or bad a.ss that he's not).

I am who I am, sometimes I'm nice, sometimes I'm mean, sometimes I'm happy, sometimes I'm sad. I'm a damn human being. If the chick you are dealing with wants to date some image out of a romantic novel, then she should go back to her romance novel.

I think you guys really put too much thought into this. Just fix your looks, fix your personality, fix your money, and meet new women often. Spin plates until they fall off. Be in a relationship with her until it turns sour. That's it.

Sometimes you will have a girl be with you for a long period of time (let's say over 5 years), sometimes she will only be with you for one night.....it's the GAME guys.

Not so much over analyzing as giving the reasons why doing those things screws up your chances. Why giving too much information at first screws things up. Usually it's because you've given them a reason to think you aren't the guy they have created in their own minds, and they start losing their attraction for you...

Basically they blame you for not being what they thought you were, lol.

Less is more. Spoon feed them information don't give them an information buffet.

 

[old_skoolr]

With women, it's your actions that speak louder then your words ever could.

Let your actions define you and let her mind try and translate what they mean, and when you do speak, it should be in a way that spins her wheel even more.