Women who get upset when you walk away from them at parties/events

[ValiantMale]

I recently had a chick get a bit heated because I told her I would have a shot with her and her friend in a bit..We went to the kitchen to pour up and were deliberating.. then I stepped away go find some shot glasses since I didn't want to use the big dixie cups to pour a shot in and ended up getting distracted talking to some other friends.. I run into her again maybe 15 minutes later and she gets all heated saying something along the lines of "Where the fucc did you go? I was waiting for you.. you said you wanted to take a shot together.. but you disappeared.. so I took mine" I used that to turn it back around to her like "oh you took your shot without me? thats messed up".. "see now i cant take a shot.. " and she was yapping about how she was waiting and im like "nah its dead.. thats not cool" and walked off. Her attitude immediately turned me off, plus there were so many women at this party it was pointless to focus on her.

Ended up sending a friend to get 2 bottles of tequila from the store since they didn't have much liquor bottles at the party, and ended up being surrounded by women who all wanted a pour at various times during.. and ended up having a fun night. Moral of the story: don't waste time with weird chicks, be the guy with the bottle and guard it/keep it with you-- the hoes will flock for some of that sweet devil water.. and before you know it, one of the drunk birds will be going home with you. (we actually left with 4 girls i just ciphoned off my girl because i knew that one of the girls would ruin it for both of us if i didnt think quick.) .. I dont know what happened with my boy.. but im almost certain he probably got ****blocked by the girl who was acting like their chaprone since the other girls were wasted.

Why the bottle thing always works at parties: There gets to be a point where the liquor runs out or someone gatekeeps the last few bottles.. especially a big party. I thikn there were probably 100 people there approx earlier in the day. By the time they started kicking people out slowly over the last few hours, it ended up being like 20 -25 chicks and maybe 15 men in a huge house and everyone was looking for the liquor.. and guess who had the last 2 bottles lol

 

[BPH]

I can't imagine a house anywhere in Philly that's large enough to house 100 people.

It sounds like that first girl was interested in you, but didn't know how to handle what she felt was a rejection because she wasn't important enough to be a priority. If she were just using you for the liquor to take a shot, she could've gone about her business after she drank hers, but she came back to you.

 

[ValiantMale]

I can't imagine a house anywhere in Philly that's large enough to house 100 people.

It sounds like that first girl was interested in you, but didn't know how to handle what she felt was a rejection because she wasn't important enough to be a priority. If she were just using you for the liquor to take a shot, she could've gone about her business after she drank hers, but she came back to you.

The party was in Woodland Hills, CA, not Philadelphia. THanks for your input and I hope you finally move out of your parents place so you don't assume everyone lives in a similar experience to yourself. Some of us travel outside of our locale and get invited to parties that have over 100 people. If you have not experienced that, it's fine.. but no need to try and assume. I wouldn't assume much about Delaware anyways.. I have honestly never even met a single person who's ever uttered Delware or Wilmington--or ever mentioned anything about visiting or wanting to visit there..

As far as your input, This stuff happens often when you're around alot of social gatherings, not just at parties but at clubs. To me it's irrational behavior but it can be flattering in a way too.. implying that the girl had put alot of emphasis and intent on the connection you two had upon barely knowing each other for a few minutes of conversation. But yeah other than that I dont look too into it.. i just look at it as reactive behavior.

 

[BPH]

The party was in Woodland Hills, CA, not Philadelphia. THanks for your input and I hope you finally move out of your parents place so you don't assume everyone lives in a similar experience to yourself. Some of us travel outside of our locale and get invited to parties that have over 100 people. If you have not experienced that, it's fine.. but no need to try and assume.

Jesus fu**ing Christ dude...I just made an assumption based on the fact that your location says "Philly" and you didn't specify that this party was across the country.

No need to be such a d*ck.

 

[ValiantMale]

Jesus fu**ing Christ dude...I just made an assumption based on the fact that your location says "Philly" and you didn't specify that this party was across the country.

No need to be such a d*ck.

I mean you started off your reply with what can be taken as a callout/implication that I wasn't being honest. That to me is a "d*ck" move.. and suggests to me that you couldn't imagine that there are people who go to such large parties or that such large parties exist. Shoot majority of the large parties in California in places like Woodland Hills, Hidden Hills, Calabasas host around ~100 people.

If someone told me they were at a huge party like that, I def wouldn't assume it was in Philly or anywhre on the east coast.. jus sayin'.

 

[BPH]

I mean you started off your reply with what can be taken as a callout/implication that I wasn't being honest. That to me is a "d*ck" move.. and suggests to me that you couldn't imagine that there are people who go to such large parties or that such large parties exist. Shoot majority of the large parties in California in places like Woodland Hills, Hidden Hills, Calabasas host around ~100 people.

If someone told me they were at a huge party like that, I def wouldn't assume it was in Philly or anywhre on the east coast.. jus sayin'.

You made a post for seemingly no reason where you're talking about being at a large party without specifying where (hence the assumption), sending your friend on a liquor run, and gatekeeping the last few bottles of liquor at said party as if it makes you "the man" when girls start showing you attention for that reason.

Now THAT is a callout.

I didn't see a point to your thread and thought I'd give input on its namesake (the girl you walked away from) since nobody else had said anything.

Didn't you just get into a fight with @Divorced w 3 in another thread to the point where it was locked? Clearly, this level of sensitivity is a pattern for you - and you haven't even been here a month.

 

[ValiantMale]

You made a post for seemingly no reason where you're talking about being at a large party without specifying where (hence the assumption), sending your friend on a liquor run, and gatekeeping the last few bottles of liquor at said party as if it makes you "the man" when girls start showing you attention for that reason.

Now THAT is a callout.

I didn't see a point to your thread and thought I'd give input on its namesake (the girl you walked away from) since nobody else had said anything.

Didn't you just get into a fight with @Divorced w 3 in another thread to the point where it was locked? Clearly, this level of sensitivity is a pattern for you - and you haven't even been here a month.

I didn't mean to but I guess I struck a nerve. I think it's clear that you are frustrated with your situation, and you should be. I would be pissed if I still lived with my parents and went around posting gaming reports on a forum and told people I want to start coaching them.. while living in a place like Delaware having to pay for hotels just to have sex. That's quite pathetic. and I don't know who you're talking about but I'm assuming the guy who was completely wacked out-- who seemed to have a personal problem with someone else on this forum and believes that I am some incarnate of that person. That's fine. Some people have way too much time on their hands.

I would have expected you to build a bridge or accept that your intentions were not kind, but seeing you get emotionally reactive tells me more than I already knew based off your initial post reply.

Regardless, you seem to be a bit younger, and I wish you the best. Rooting for you to get your own place or end up getting out of Delaware and moving onto bigger things.

 

[BPH]

I would have expected you to build a bridge or accept that your intentions were not kind, but seeing you get emotionally reactive tells me more than I already knew based off your initial post reply.

I tried to show you some love since nobody had replied for a few days.

EDIT: If you thought I was going to apologize for the way YOU misinterpreted my message, especially after you were a massive d*ck in response, you might still be drunk from this party.

The party was in Woodland Hills, CA, not Philadelphia.

This was all that was necessary to clarify something you didn't clarify in the OP originally, while having a different location associated with your profile.

But instead, you added all this garbage:

THanks for your input and I hope you finally move out of your parents place so you don't assume everyone lives in a similar experience to yourself. Some of us travel outside of our locale and get invited to parties that have over 100 people. If you have not experienced that, it's fine.. but no need to try and assume. I wouldn't assume much about Delaware anyways.. I have honestly never even met a single person who's ever uttered Delware or Wilmington--or ever mentioned anything about visiting or wanting to visit there..

You seem like a bit of an as*clown, so I'll leave you alone for somebody else to stroke your massive ego. I don't see you having much of a future here if you're this sensitive and inflammatory less than a month in.

 

[ValiantMale]

I tried to show you some love since nobody had replied for a few days.



This was all that was necessary to clarify something you didn't clarify in the OP originally, while having a different location associated with your profile.

But instead, you added all this garbage:


You seem like a bit of an as*clown, so I'll leave you alone for somebody else to stroke your massive ego. I don't see you having much of a future here if you're this sensitive and inflammatory less than a month in.

Once again, I got no ill will towards you and I'm seriously rooting for you. All I did was share an experience and a post based on something I experience every once in awhile with certain women at social gatherings. Alot of the posts on here are pretty dry and boring so I figured I'd share some of my experiences, from a day at the beach to a large house party I went to. If people can't relate to some of the topics, I don't expect them to reply. I understand the demographic of the forum.. I've been reading for months before making an account.

You said something that can be considered a callout, I clapped back and it hurt. No worries. and to act like an online forum is a place that someone really wants to have a "future" in.. is hilarious.. But you've been here for 15+ years it seems so I'm not surprised.. this forum probably means alot to you! I'm happy to say at least I didn't insult you directly with name calling, and simply stated facts that youv'e shared with all of us to make my points. It's funny how when presented with facts, people get so upset. These facts were brought upon by yourself! I Just reiterated them. Anyways, whats mom cooking for dinner? Must be nice living at home.

 

[Clockwerk50]

• Taking a misunderstanding and instantly escalating it into a personal attack. Check.
• Mocking where someone lives or implying they’re sexually frustrated. Check.
• Calling someone else “emotionally reactive” while being, ironically, emotionally reactive. Check

It’s hard to establish credibility or project dominance by claiming to be a “high-value guy” who doesn’t get phased, especially when OP massively overreacts to something that wasn’t even meant as disrespect.

It was just a simple misunderstanding. But reacting to it like it was some kind of threat? That’s a clear sign of a lack of congruency and it says a lot more than one thinks.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You made a post for seemingly no reason where you're talking about being at a large party without specifying where (hence the assumption), sending your friend on a liquor run, and gatekeeping the last few bottles of liquor at said party as if it makes you "the man" when girls start showing you attention for that reason.

Now THAT is a callout.

I didn't see a point to your thread and thought I'd give input on its namesake (the girl you walked away from) since nobody else had said anything.

Didn't you just get into a fight with @Divorced w 3 in another thread to the point where it was locked? Clearly, this level of sensitivity is a pattern for you - and you haven't even been here a month.

Hi from Ireland

I bytch slapped him in broad daylight on Park Avenue. It wasn’t a fight.

He challenged me, which I did, and yet couldn’t produce his own single example of him interacting with other women. He couldn’t even fake an AI text.

I had Grok scrape his posts and confirmed in 3.5 seconds what I knew in his first post - he is RazorRambo24

You are arguing with a self admitted fat trailer park incel

 

[ValiantMale]

• Taking a misunderstanding and instantly escalating it into a personal attack. Check.
• Mocking where someone lives or implying they’re sexually frustrated. Check.
• Calling someone else “emotionally reactive” while being, ironically, emotionally reactive. Check

It’s hard to establish credibility or project dominance by claiming to be a “high-value guy” who doesn’t get phased, especially when OP massively overreacts to something that wasn’t even meant as disrespect.

It was just a simple misunderstanding. But reacting to it like it was some kind of threat? That’s a clear sign of a lack of congruency and it says a lot more than one thinks.

I'm only 33, I'm sure I can be a bit more mature about it.. but I don't come to forums to be a rolemodel.. I join forums like this for dialogue and entertainment.

I also have no emotional reactivity toward it.. I just found it funny that he in specific tried calling me out as if I was bull****ting about something so menial, when I've read some of his posts and raised eyebrows at the fact that he wanted to take on coaching clients on this forum while he still lives with his parents.. If it were someone else, I probably wouldn't have even addressed the callout.

Thanks for your input regardless.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I can't imagine a house anywhere in Philly that's large enough to house 100 people.

It sounds like that first girl was interested in you, but didn't know how to handle what she felt was a rejection because she wasn't important enough to be a priority. If she were just using you for the liquor to take a shot, she could've gone about her business after she drank hers, but she came back to you.

Manayunk

 

[Divorced w 3]

The party was in Woodland Hills, CA, not Philadelphia. THanks for your input and I hope you finally move out of your parents place so you don't assume everyone lives in a similar experience to yourself. Some of us travel outside of our locale and get invited to parties that have over 100 people. If you have not experienced that, it's fine.. but no need to try and assume. I wouldn't assume much about Delaware anyways.. I have honestly never even met a single person who's ever uttered Delware or Wilmington--or ever mentioned anything about visiting or wanting to visit there..

As far as your input, This stuff happens often when you're around alot of social gatherings, not just at parties but at clubs. To me it's irrational behavior but it can be flattering in a way too.. implying that the girl had put alot of emphasis and intent on the connection you two had upon barely knowing each other for a few minutes of conversation. But yeah other than that I dont look too into it.. i just look at it as reactive behavior.

The best bj and anal I have ever had, to this day, came from MaryBeth in Delaware, a sexy blonde on the volleyball team. I snuck a couple beers into the college dance and she said she had seen me around in the cafeteria. We fell instantly in love.

she would pull me off the campus just to deep throat me. She threw a girl out of the room.

she was blacked out laying next to me after a night at the Penn state art festival, I put a finger in her a$$, she moaned and we just went for it

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I tried to show you some love since nobody had replied for a few days.

EDIT: If you thought I was going to apologize for the way YOU misinterpreted my message, especially after you were a massive d*ck in response, you might still be drunk from this party.



This was all that was necessary to clarify something you didn't clarify in the OP originally, while having a different location associated with your profile.

But instead, you added all this garbage:


You seem like a bit of an as*clown, so I'll leave you alone for somebody else to stroke your massive ego. I don't see you having much of a future here if you're this sensitive and inflammatory less than a month in.

You drew First Blood...

 

[BPH]

You drew First Blood...

Brother, the way this thread evolved is one of the dumbest f***ing things I've ever read.

This is my fault; I should've let him have his "look how cool I am" moment until nobody else cared long enough for it to end up on page 2.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

When a member creates a thread, they are choosing a certain topic to be the theme of that thread.

That topic is often self-evident after reading the thread title, or upon reading the original post.

Subsequent posts to that thread that are relevant to the theme of the thread, and directly address it, are deemed on-topic. Posts that completely avoid addressing the theme and have no bearing on the original post are considered off-topic.

Often the discussion within a thread organically deviates towards a tangential topic, and that is fine in most cases because conversations in general naturally evolve and develop over the course of the discussion, and an occasional sidebar can be useful to add context or to colour the conversation...

However, deviating from the theme of the thread is not always benign, as most off-topic posts occur as the result of one member attempting to provoke and bicker with another, and that target member responding in kind.

All it takes is a few posts (or sometimes even just a single post) for a thread to be taken off-topic and derailed.


So what does derailing a thread mean?

Think of a train on railroad tracks as an analogy:

The thread itself is the entire train. The topic of any particular thread is the railroad tracks, and the thread creator's original post is the first engine that powers the train to begin moving down the direction of those tracks. Each subsequent post is an individual railcar on that train. In order to stay on the tracks (on-topic), it is prudent for each railcar to remain on the tracks. A railcar (a member's individual post) that leaves the tracks increases the likelihood that the next railcar will leave the tracks, as the railcar ahead of them is pulling them towards a new direction off the tracks. A single railcar that falls off the rails can be pulled back onto the rails if the subsequent railcars remain on the tracks, but if multiple railcars are instead pulled off the tracks as well, then the entire train (thread) derails. However, all it takes is one railcar to start that process...

... all it takes is a single post to derail a thread.


Common ways threads are derailed:

- Posts that do not directly address to the topic at all, especially if they are one of the first few responses within that thread.
- Posts that do not offer any contribution to the thread in a meaningful way.
- Posts that explicitly insult other members.
- Posts that contain veiled personal attacks against other members (passive aggression).
- Any post designed to provoke another member, doubly so if it is a personal vendetta stemming from another thread or threads.
- Posts that are overly judgemental or condescending towards OP and do not contain any insight or practical information.
- Threads can also be destined for failure at the outset by the original post being drawn out or incoherent (stressing the importance of authoring a concise and well-formatted original post).
- A post that, instead of actually contributing to the thread topic, merely calls out a previous member’s post as derailing the thread, inadvertently becoming a derailing post itself (members should use the report button to report a derailing post instead of responding directly to it).


How derailing a thread can get you banned

Derailing threads for any of the aforementioned reasons are behaviours that are detrimental to this forum because such behaviours bog down a potentially worthwhile thread with irrelevant bickering and whining, needlessly cluttering it with useless information.
Posting comments to a thread should serve to CONTRIBUTE to that thread's topic, not derail it.

While derailing a thread in itself is not against the rules of the forum, please note derailing threads is disrespectful to the member who authored that thread and to every other member who wishes to participate in or observe the discussion.

Repeatedly going out of your way to derail a thread to goad the same members that you have ongoing issues with into an off-topic argument time and time again, constitutes harassment.

Derailing a thread one time will not get you banned. However, a pattern of such a behaviour can and will ultimately lead to a ban.

Instead of derailing a thread, I advise all members to use the ignore button if they cannot self-govern themselves when it comes to interacting with the content of any particular member that triggers them on this forum.


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