Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Women who are interested in you WON'T CONFUSE YOU!

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All rise! Court is now in session. The honorable Judge nismo presiding. You may be seated.

Ok, this thread is exactly what it says on the tin unlike most w0manese you hear. It just needs to be said here. Think about it. If a woman is truly interested, will she give you mixed emotions? Hell no. Will she flake? Hell no. Will she make a way to see you and become available? Hell yeah!

When a woman says yes to a date and then suddenly loses her phone, falls ill (without a counter offer), falls asleep, etc. Guess what? Wait for it...Your princess is in another castle!

And if she wants to be friends first (lovers last, more likely never), play hard to get (never will get) or take it slow, go ghost on her. I don't have that kind of time to take it slow or be friends or chase a hard to get. I hope you don't believe in this friends first or take it slow or hard to get sh*t because they're all rejections and don't do men any good. If you get one, your game will only drag out the rejection. Counter intuitive.

To sum up: When a woman is totally into you, she'll throw out any standards, doubts, etc. to make that happen. She won't make you wait. She won't be shy. She will let you know that she wants to go to your castle. And why won't a woman confuse you? Easy, because she knows that if she does, she'll lose you to someone else and be broken. :(

For example, I saw a regular looking man (Think a computer nerd) talk to a girl today. She was giving him mixed emotions. She was having fun pulling his strings until he passed by her in a Lamborghini. The way the girl was screaming and crying was priceless! She then said "If only I made it known I was interested goddamnit!" :cry:

I've made my point and this solves your low-ass interest problem with women. :up:

Court is adjourned.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Plutoman

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nismo-4 said:
She was having fun pulling his strings until he passed by her in a Lamborghini.
I laughed. More seriously, true to the point. It's a good statement and needs to be said - and I need to remind myself of it, too.
 

Huffman

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True, but often you don't have a woman who is 100% super duper interested from the start.
 

floydb25

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Word. But interest declines as time goes on, and guys not experienced in dating dont realize whats going on. Or, if theyre infatuated. So it makes sense to ask in that regard. IE, they dont always start off being confused. But, nothing is ever concrete; feelings can change in an instant.

This is why you DONT have expectations, become infatuated, wear your heart on a sleeve, etc.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OBJECTION HONORABLE JUDGE NISMO!

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT! (NAWALT TM)

I BRING TO YOU ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE THAT PROVES OTHERWISE!

I KNOW A FRIEND OF A FRIEND's MOM's COUSIN WHO WAS NOTHING LIKE THAT.

I REST MY CASE!
 

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This is another rule that makes DJ's more rigid and amenable to be breaking easily.

Then you end up with guys who are total asshøles, walking around bars, insulting every girl in line, because after all,

if they were interested; they would start blowing him right in the middle of the bar, right?

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No. Initial attraction could be like static electricity; flaky, easy to lose, easy to spark, but real attraction takes time and effort, say like Direct Current.
(without a battery it won't flow)

If you breed more DJ's with this "she won't confuse you if she is into you, bullshít", you'll end up with women haters eventually, not DJ's.

And we have plenty of them already.
 
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