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One of the biggest factors of a woman's confidence is how she feels about her body. Except the wanna-be models on Instagram, those women are delusional attention wh*res. The biggest factor is how she feels about her vagina...

Let me explain...

Everyone wants a confident person. For men, you walk, talk, dress, and express yourself with confidence. Every woman wants a guy like that. Only the shallow ones care about looks(the wanna-be model women are like this). Status, such as simply knowing people, will get you far with women.

Women care about their looks. They care a lot. The beauty industry is worth multiples of billions.

The biggest thing that I have noticed in the dating game is if a woman is confident with her vagina. It seems odd and it really is. You don't want a woman who is not confident in it and you don't want one who is so self absorbed with it(instagram wannabe models).

Why her Vagina specifically?

I'm not a woman by any means but I do know that most women have or had some type of insecurity with their vagina. They really are the cores of feminine energy, that's why the term 'stop acting like a vagina" exists. This type of insecurity lingers and rubs off onto other aspect of their lives.

Let's see how a negative view on their vagina effects their dating life...

Ever see a woman not really care about how she is dressed? In a way that isn't exactly feminine, but more on the borderline of childish or even boyish? How a person dresses tells a lot about themselves. How they walk and talk as well. That's a woman is not confident in herself.

Now let's imagine a sexy or desirable woman.

The biggest and easiest thing that I have noticed is that they dress more provocative, showing more skin. Not necessarily the slvtty girls, but showing skin in a reasonable amount. But more skin as in shorts, tank tops, or some type of sandals.

I've dated a lot of liberal girls. The only reason why I have ever thought of 'a woman whose confident in their vagina' is because of those girls. 3/4 liberal girls are insecure, specifically about their body.

The reason why I chose vagina specifically, is because how they dress. A girl who shows more skin is more prone to show you their vagina(strippers and escorts for example). They essentially embrace their feminine side a lot more compared to the ones who hide more skin.

You want a woman is comfortable in her own skin. If she isn't, she will drag you down. She most likely won't work out to care of her body or eat a healthier diet. Insecurity is an awful parasite.

You want to find a happy median. Not too self absorbed but not too insecure. You can do this by judging how they present themselves. Another way you can find out is if they send nudes with their vagina in it in some way.

Insecure women are not often talked about here. But I have been stumbling on a lot of them in real life lately, opposites attract I guess. The signs really are right in front of you.
 
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One of the biggest factors of a woman's confidence is how she feels about her body. Except the wanna-be models on Instagram, those women are delusional attention wh*res. The biggest factor is how she feels about her vagina...

Let me explain...

Everyone wants a confident person. For men, you walk, talk, dress, and express yourself with confidence. Every woman wants a guy like that. Only the shallow ones care about looks(the wanna-be model women are like this). Status, such as simply knowing people, will get you far with women.

Women care about their looks. They care a lot. The beauty industry is worth multiples of billions.

The biggest thing that I have noticed in the dating game is if a woman is confident with her vagina. It seems odd and it really is. You don't want a woman who is not confident in it and you don't want one who is so self absorbed with it(instagram wannabe models).

Why her Vagina specifically?

I'm not a woman by any means but I do know that most women have or had some type of insecurity with their vagina. They really are the cores of feminine energy, that's why the term 'stop acting like a vagina" exists. This type of insecurity lingers and rubs off onto other aspect of their lives.

Let's see how a negative view on their vagina effects their dating life...

Ever see a woman not really care about how she is dressed? In a way that isn't exactly feminine, but more on the borderline of childish or even boyish? How a person dresses tells a lot about themselves. How they walk and talk as well. That's a woman is not confident in herself.

Now let's imagine a sexy or desirable woman.

The biggest and easiest thing that I have noticed is that they dress more provocative, showing more skin. Not necessarily the slvtty girls, but showing skin in a reasonable amount. But more skin as in shorts, tank tops, or some type of sandals.

I've dated a lot of liberal girls. The only reason why I have ever thought of 'a woman whose confident in their vagina' is because of those girls. 3/4 liberal girls are insecure, specifically about their body.

The reason why I chose vagina specifically, is because how they dress. A girl who shows more skin is more prone to show you their vagina(strippers and escorts for example). They essentially embrace their feminine side a lot more compared to the ones who hide more skin.

You want a woman is comfortable in her own skin. If she isn't, she will drag you down. She most likely won't work out to care of her body or eat a healthier diet. Insecurity is an awful parasite.

You want to find a happy median. Not too self absorbed but not too insecure. You can do this by judging how they present themselves. Another way you can find out is if they send nudes with their vagina in it in some way.

Insecure women are not often talked about here. But I have been stumbling on a lot of them in real life lately, opposites attract I guess. The signs really are right in front of you.

Unless it looks like a roast beef sandwich hold the bread, I can't see how most women would have an insecurity with their vagina. Their butts, legs, stomach, waist, breasts, skin, hair, nose and lips yes. But vagina insecurity? I don't think that's a thing....
 

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I don't see it either but then again I'm confident about ALL of me, naughty bits included. But do I actively go around thinking about it? Not as a seperate entity. It's part of my body and I am extremely confident in my physical self.

Interestingly I'll add something about the way an alluring woman dresses.

A truly alluring woman dresses in a way that is at once modest and sexy. It's there but it is understated and has no need to flaunt skin. Think of a long dress that drapes a shapely figure beautifully. Such a dress covers everything but shows the curve of the breast, the curve of the hip, the curve of the ass...and maybe there is a smal back slit so you can glimpse the definition of the calf as a woman moves. Combine that with a good high heel? Every and I mean EVERY head will swivel. Ask me how I know...
 

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I don't see it either but then again I'm confident about ALL of me, naughty bits included. But do I actively go around thinking about it? Not as a seperate entity. It's part of my body and I am extremely confident in my physical self.

Interestingly I'll add something about the way an alluring woman dresses.

A truly alluring woman dresses in a way that is at once modest and sexy. It's there but it is understated and has no need to flaunt skin. Think of a long dress that drapes a shapely figure beautifully. Such a dress covers everything but shows the curve of the breast, the curve of the hip, the curve of the ass...and maybe there is a smal back slit so you can glimpse the definition of the calf as a woman moves. Combine that with a good high heel? Every and I mean EVERY head will swivel. Ask me how I know...
Seems like common knowledge among beautiful women. Or at least I thought. I have one girl now who is incredibly attractive but wears blue jeans on a Saturday night. Great girl ... but blue jeans Sat night?

Advantage: She is no Primadonna with the intent of attention to crack heads, but a naturally beautiful face and great body; genuine, real (not superficially- or socially- constructed) personality and energy.

Disadvantage: Not my Saturday night (usual) style.

I'm used to the draped out (as you describe above) modelesque head-cracking girls that get the open door, red-carpet treatment everywhere we go.

I have my opinion, but ... what do you think?
 
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I don't see it either but then again I'm confident about ALL of me, naughty bits included. But do I actively go around thinking about it? Not as a seperate entity. It's part of my body and I am extremely confident in my physical self.

Interestingly I'll add something about the way an alluring woman dresses.

A truly alluring woman dresses in a way that is at once modest and sexy. It's there but it is understated and has no need to flaunt skin. Think of a long dress that drapes a shapely figure beautifully. Such a dress covers everything but shows the curve of the breast, the curve of the hip, the curve of the ass...and maybe there is a smal back slit so you can glimpse the definition of the calf as a woman moves. Combine that with a good high heel? Every and I mean EVERY head will swivel. Ask me how I know...
My work regularly takes me to an Orthodox Jewish area of Toronto and you can tell which women purposely give off sex appeal while adhering to their community's dress code. Long skirts that are form fitting with black boots and form fitting shirts and the most feminine wigs with the long hair. Nothing is hanging out but the vibe is there.
 
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not that im against such a dress but whats wrong with showing off your legs? or shoulders?
Nothing, it's what the total look gives off that says classy sexy or trashy sexy, or just trash.
Minimal make up with a natural hairstyle, off the shoulder blouse with a mini skirt and nice wedge sandals=
Classy sexy.
Imagine the same clothes but a face caked in heavy make up with overdone eyeshadow, fake lashes, big up do hairstyle, bright lipstick, etc etc.
 
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Seems like common knowledge among beautiful women. Or at least I thought. I have one girl now who is incredibly attractive but wears blue jeans on a Saturday night. Great girl ... but blue jeans Sat night?

Advantage: She is no Primadonna with the intent of attention to crack heads, but a naturally beautiful face and great body; genuine, real (not superficially- or socially- constructed) personality and energy.

Disadvantage: Not my Saturday night (usual) style.

I'm used to the draped out (as you describe above) modelesque head-cracking girls that get the open door, red-carpet treatment everywhere we go.

I have my opinion, but ... what do you think?
If she's going to a nice restaurant on a Saturday night wearing jeans that is weird, but a cafe or nice walk in a park jeans would make sense.

So it's venue dependant but I bet when she finally does get decked out she will look stunning, if she already looks very nice in casual clothes. :)
 
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It is weird. Definitely not Guru's style. But a deal-breaker?
How does she make you feel? That's the only area where deal breakers should be pondered.

If you notice her style of dress is giving you a lingering negative feeling then you may want to consider if she is someone with whom you want to invest your time and potentially emotions.

If, on the other hand you forget about the jeans after 10 minutes because other things about her are making you feel good then I would say it's not necessarily a deal breaker but again the venue is key. Levi's at a fancy dinner would be questionable. Is she showing up in jeans at places where there is an expected dress code?
 
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sex appeal and class are 2 different things.

she said she thinks a long form fiting dress can be sexy. while i dont disagree, i dont think a knee-length dress or slightly higher is trashy either.

i dont see a correlation between being modesty/classy and sex appeal.

i personally think jwoww is utter trash and the farthest thing from classy. but i would wreck that chick
Hahaha good point. I think my female view clashed somewhat with your male view on sex appeal.

I was giving you a description of what I would think is sexy if I was a guy, and you explained it as what an actual guy would think, which makes sense.
 
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Yea I was talking to this girl on SA a few weeks ago. Didn't pay her anything. Then she showed me her pu$$y and it was gross and I told her I didn't want to talk to her any more. She was in disbelief and kept insisting that it wasn't gross and that it was tight and hot, but it assuredly looked like it had been fvcked by a million horses.
 

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LOL, you certainly have a way with words. My picture comment was directly to BeExcellent.
I can provide illustrations, but not right this second. Working up a proposal for a hospital executive tonight but can find a photographer tomorrow. This is not a selfie thing and I am horrible at taking selfies anyway BC I rarely do.

But I agree a picture is worth 1000 words.
 

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not that im against such a dress but whats wrong with showing off your legs? or shoulders?
Nothing wrong with showing legs or showing shoulders. But it's best to feature one thing and be more modest on the rest.

For example
If you have a plunging neck line do not have a very short hemline.

If you have on a micro mini you should have incredible legs, and not show excessive cleavage or bare shoulders

If you wear a dress with a plunging back you have a hemline at the ankle and not also have a plunging neckline.

If you have a strapless or spaghetti strap dress whether it's short or long it should move and be fuller, not be a clingy dress (a woman should never NEVER look like she is wearing a sausage casing).

A woman should show off her strengths and minimize her liabilities. The better body she has & the taller and thinner the more assets she will have compared to liabilities but too much skin is still too much skin.

It is the suggestion of a gorgeous body that gets a man's heart rate up. The mystery and possibility. Overtly flaunting ones body is vulgar. Vulgarity is never a good reflection on a woman.

Now. If you can pull it off through strength of personality you can surf the edge and go vixen...(think Jessica Rabbit or Marilyn Monroe) but you have to 100% own it to keep it classy...and you also have to be demure at the same time. That's a fine line but men can't resist it.
 

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Seems like common knowledge among beautiful women. Or at least I thought. I have one girl now who is incredibly attractive but wears blue jeans on a Saturday night. Great girl ... but blue jeans Sat night?

Advantage: She is no Primadonna with the intent of attention to crack heads, but a naturally beautiful face and great body; genuine, real (not superficially- or socially- constructed) personality and energy.

Disadvantage: Not my Saturday night (usual) style.

I'm used to the draped out (as you describe above) modelesque head-cracking girls that get the open door, red-carpet treatment everywhere we go.

I have my opinion, but ... what do you think?
It's about what is appropriate. Going out in Lower Manhattan requires a sophisticated polished look compared to going out in Manhattan, KS where jeans are expected. I'd never go out in NYC on Saturday night in jeans. Dresses are dressier and to my way of thinking both more versatile and more comfortable.

Feel free to make a suggestion Guru. You can always say: "We're hitting the town baby. Dress to the 9s". Or tell her: "I'll be in a suit. Wear something short and black." That would guide her without being bossy. I like it when a man gives that kind of guidance honestly, even though I am very intuitive about what best to wear. We all tend to be comfortable & relaxed when we know we are appropriate.

If you say that and still find her in jeans while you are in suit then you have a girl who doesn't know what she doesn't know. That's fixable but under no circumstances do you make her aware you think she doesn't know how to dress. That would make her feel awkward and awkward doesn't help your cause.

If that happens PM @AJ84 and I. That's a delicate thing to discuss with a woman.
 

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we'll agree to disagree, like i said above, i dont see a correlation between modesty or class and sex appeal.

if i can take home the girl with the hottest body at the bar while shes dressed trashy you better believe im gonna bang her vulgar brains out
Understood. If a man wants sex and a woman's mode of dress advertises SEX overtly then knock yourself out.

What I'm talking about is confidence and allure and being a woman you'd be proud to take to dinner with your CEO and his wife. Elegant/confident/a reflection of your good taste.

Entirely different context than a bar slvt you'd bang with her legs & boobs hanging out on display for all to see.

An alluring woman is a fantastic accessory for a man, a good reflection on him. The key is allure with restraint. Don't let it ALL hang out.

A confident woman does not NEED to do that, and so she doesn't.
 

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i know what youre talking about. im making distinction between what turns men on and how a woman presents herself.

you can preach all day about how a classy and approriate lady present herself, but when it comes to what turns men on, its still no substitute for a girl with a great tight young body no matter how she dresses.

these things are mutually exclusive and not to be confused or an attempt made to blurr the lines
Believe me I know exactly what turns men on. It's not blurring the lines nor mutually exclusive at all to say that a rocking body and a bit of mystery with a bit of modesty isn't sexy. I have men tell me that all the time. Of course, I do have a better body than many, if not most 25 year olds. I hear that all the time too, so no need to shame the (still hot & pretty) old lady.

Cheers ;)
 

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So why not just slide the word ‘looks’ instead of ‘vagina’? It’s confusing as hell, and all you’re really referring to are their physical feature when say ‘vagina’.
 

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So confused... I was not aware this was a thing.
Dare I ask, what makes a good vagina? Or an nice vagina?
I was once concerned about what might happen after bearing children but everyone swore up and down that nothing happens even then... so have we just invented something new to be self conscious about?
 
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So confused... I was not aware this was a thing.
Dare I ask, what makes a good vagina? Or an nice vagina?
I was once concerned about what might happen after bearing children but everyone swore up and down that nothing happens even then... so have we just invented something new to be self conscious about?
Other than having signs of disease, it could have a foul odor or lips that are way too thick.
 
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