Women want sex as much as men lol

[logicallefty]

I actually remember reading an anecdote of a woman who did inject herself and how her sex drive went through the roof. Thing is, our drive is meant to push us to accomplish things which generally results in sex.

You must be sure that the girl is pure for the Funky Cold Medina. dun....dun.....dun.dun.dun..dun..

 

[FCB]

When it comes to sex and dating overall many times the best place to look is at Biology and evolution. The main goal for males in most animals is to pass on your genetics, some species have evolved to have the male involved in raising the child but for the most part that falls on the female. So for the male the goal is to have sex with as many females as possible which gives the most success, therefore the males with a higher sex drive and willingness to have sex with as many females as possible have an evolutionary advantage and those genes are more likely to be passed on in us. Now the female in advanced species is responsible for raising that child and its goal is to not just pass on its genetics but to find the best mate to generate the best chance at producing healthy viable offspring. So it makes sense the women want sex but are more selective.

Obviously its not as cut and dry because as a species and in an environment where evolution took place it was dangerous, resources were scarce and competition probably fierce, therefore there was an advantage for women to have a male presence to protect and provide for the female and its offspring. That still doesn't necessarily make up for a guy who sleeps and impregnates 10x women over a guy who stays with one, the math is still on the guy sleeping with multiple women's favor for genetic success, since others can help rear his children as well but for the mother this is not the case. So women heed the results, need to be selective to find a suitable partner and men don't necessarily. It makes sense also in the sense why women will flake on guys not acting masculine, if a man loses his ability to protect and provide for them biologically speaking he has lost his necessity and she is likely to branch swing to another male who she deems fit to meet her needs, which is actually linked to genetics (better chance of her offspring surviving which is the ultimate goal of a women, a man moreso is to just pass the sperm on)

When you think on the evolutionary level back to when these things were programmed into our DNA dating/mating/sex/push pull and what women are attracted to makes sense, women can learn to be attracted to a feminine intellectual but the instinctual drive will be to **** the brains out of the masculine male who fills the rolls needed but overall sex for them (even if to a lesser extent now with abortions and prophylactics) isn't an advantage if they just **** everything that walks with low standards of selection since they would not be choosing the best chances of survival for their offspring. They may not understand tests, may not understand why some guys make them horny and others are duds but I do think much of it is hardwired in and takes active learning to stray from.

 

[skinnyguy]

They do want sex.

Just not with beta faggots.

 

[FCB]

Women know the sweet spot in controlling men is through sex. They can make any man believe he's a porn star in bed and the male ego plays right into this trap. I've never heard a guy say he was bad in bed or be self deprecating about anything concerning sex. Believing women want sex just as much as we do is just another tool in their box. You'll be thinking "Wow, they want it just like we do so if I'm not getting it when I want it, I need to work TWICE as hard!!!"

Some women want it more than others but they'll never know how the sex drive of a man feels unless they pump themselves full of male hormones. I actually remember reading an anecdote of a woman who did inject herself and how her sex drive went through the roof. Thing is, our drive is meant to push us to accomplish things which generally results in sex.

Yes and no. I think its possible women enjoy and want sex as much as we do, but are hardwired to pre-select for sex partners, which makes sense when you consider women are sex maniacs for the right guy. But its complicated when you consider that they may be using that to try and win a man/can have sex when they don't really want to if htey are supplicating. I think if you think about it deeply there is a checklist women are running through that is learned and hardwired, as is always the case. If you meet the genetic criteria of being healthy (attractive) and display the qualities that were best in the times of evolution (the pack leader, protector, hunter, strong personality able to lead) then they get revved up and want sex (to procreate with that person). The more you display other personality traits (which is common in LTR's) you are at a disadvantage from the hardwired standpoint, once she has your genetics even (a child) or in a relationship you are only as usefull as what you can do for them now vs what they can get from another man. Think about pack dynamics (which humans were for much of the time of evolutionary changes), a pack of dogs needs a strong pack leader if the leader isn't strong the pack fails, dogs are programmed to act out and test a pack leader to see if he's still up to the job, if he isn't a new leader emerges and so on. This is for the benefit of the pack, just like how women test men its the same strategy they are seeing if you are strong enough to lead or if they need a new pack leader. And in the pack the females get horny for the pack leader, he's the most genetically fit and has shown the ability to thrive in his environment.

I've never really fully thought about all this but in the context of a lot of things discussed on this board it makes sense, a women is attracted (all generalities) to healthy traits from a evolutionary and pack standpoint, but they need to time sex as well, when a mate meets all their categories she's tested for the need for sex will ramp up, if the need for sex was always on then they wouldn't have the chance to get the best partner because they'd be banging all the other willing males (who are perma available) so they are at an advantage to wait and give it up to the right male, but that person needs to prove that through a large sample of showing his strength as a pack leader (who would be wanted by other females). And they are at an advantage to branch swing to one they think is better, which explains why women are almost always better at turning off the feelz for one guy and jumping on another, arguably being a fickle **** in this case is good for them.

I'd also argue that getting feelings for a girl and wanting to be monogamous is possibly genetically programmed into us since it would give our children a better chance of surviving, but for women that isn't the case if they could find another male that they think will provide them with what they need. We cannot do that since we'd be decreasing our childs chance of survival. Of course these are all in cave man times since that is when evolution stopped, even though we've learned advanced and changed evolution and much of the hardwiring has not without that pressure of death or selection for survival.

 

[marmel75]

You are missing the point.

Women don't want sex with just any man, they want sex with a DESIRABLE man. Big difference. While a lot of guys will lower their standards quite a bit to get sex, women most times will not since its so easy for them to obtain.


If you are some needy, lame ass, approval seeking beta dude(and I'm not saying the OP is, merely speaking in general terms), then yeah, obviously its going to seem like women aren't that interested in sex...they aren't interested in sex with YOU...if you are a guy they find sexually attractive then its a whole different ball of wax...trust me, they will want to fvck a LOT...

 

[RangerMIke]

When you think on the evolutionary level back to when these things were programmed into our DNA dating/mating/sex/push pull and what women are attracted to makes sense, women can learn to be attracted to a feminine intellectual but the instinctual drive will be to **** the brains out of the masculine male who fills the rolls needed but overall sex for them (even if to a lesser extent now with abortions and prophylactics) isn't an advantage if they just **** everything that walks with low standards of selection since they would not be choosing the best chances of survival for their offspring. They may not understand tests, may not understand why some guys make them horny and others are duds but I do think much of it is hardwired in and takes active learning to stray from.

I agree. It all depends on what 'need' you are providing the woman. The animal need to procreate with the best possible genetic mate... or the need to find a man willing to protect and care for her and her offspring.

Many sociologists and anthropologists believe that both kinds of man were needed to have an effective society and for civilization to develop. To accommodate this reality, human beings went through behavioral changes that stay with us today. For example, sex is a biological need, just like eating, pooping, and sleeping... so why is there so much stigma attached to sex? Oh sure people go off to the bathroom because it stinks and no one wants to see you doing that and leaving you waste all over the place. But everyone likes sex... and watching sex..., so why did we ever develop the idea that we had to have sex in private??? Only in exceptional circumstances was this NOT true in all human culture.

Well... it goes back to the cave days when betas and women had to sneak around and have sex without anyone knowing. Because if the Alpha found out, the Beta would have his head smashed in. But the women needed to hook the Beta so that she could get the benefits of support so they had to sneak around and have sex. If a Beta got too clingy and 'brave' the woman pushed him back because to do otherwise puts them both at risk from the Alpha clubbing them both to death. This is why woman are more comfortable when they are doing they pursuing, it gives them comfort and control. This is also why women are capable of hiding their true feelings and how they can continue in a relationship even though they just don't feel it anymore, it was an evolutionary necessity.

When she needs you then you are available, otherwise you are not engaging in dangerous behavior. The only way women don't do this is if they think they have a male that is capable of standing up to the alpha, you get to this point by demonstrating male strength qualities. This is why when you act like a man, women will always come back to you if she likes you, OBTW don't kid yourself..... LIKE = She thinks she can get something from you.

When you understand how human being social groups evolved it becomes clear exactly why people behave the way they do.

 

[G_Govan]

Think about it at the biological level. Men don't have menstrual cycles and we don't ovulate. We don't have to be worked into a lather to have sex. How many men complain of a lack of foreplay?

Usually when we're in the mood we can just get right into the action.

Our drive is pretty constant.

Using the argument that women will equal us in drive when all these "prerequisites" are met only strengthens my point. We just need a hot body and we're good to go.

It's like comparing a woman's interest in two guys who are exactly the same except one guy is tall and one is short. All things being equal means she'll go for the taller guy, but how often are all things equal? Almost never.

The conditions they require to share the intensity of our sex drive as men on the whole doesn't exist.

 

[nismo-4]

Sadly, not every man can be an alpha male.

 

[3agle 3yes]

I made a thread on this about have better sex with women on this forum about last year and this was one of my key points.

Whether women want sex as much as men or not is the WRONG question to ask.

The better question IMO what is sex? And do women see or think about sex the same way we do...and the answer is a resounding NO.

Women love sex just as much as men do but in a DIFFERENT way, that's where most of the misunderstanding is happening.

It's just my opinion (after all) but sex isn't simply a penis penetrating a vagina, it's much more than that.

Men tend to only see one half of it and women tend to only see the other...but we both know about the other half.

The best way to describe it is like this:

Men see sex as 80% physical and 20% psychological.

Women see sex as 20% physical and 80% psychological.

Our brains COMPLIMENT each other.

This applies to both men and women in GENERAL.

This explains WHY men prefer porn and women prefer "erotic" novels.

FRMI Studies show that the same areas of the brain that light up with sexual response in men SEEING (physical) porn is the same area that lights up when women are involved in deep, EMOTIONAL (psychological) conversation.

Link here: http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/808430_4

Not only is this my experience but pretty much everyone I know.

I've realised what gets women wet the most isn't what is happening, but what MIGHT happen LATER.

Women LOVE anticipating that sex might happen and this makes perfect sense.

Unlike us, women need to get wet FIRST, before they can f*ck.

How do you make a woman anticipate that sex might happen? Tease, tease, tease.

Because us men view sex mostly as physical, women tease us PHYSICALLY....but since women view sex mostly as psychological we should
tease women PSYCHOLOGICALLY.

EVERY interaction you have with a woman you're attracted to is sex for a woman.

When you approach her...sex.

When you flirt with her...sex.

etc, etc, all the way to the bedroom or the kitchen or the street corner....wherever.