CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
Who cares, either fvck her and leave or move on to the next one.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Flip the script. She's attracted to the concept of the power dynamic, not necessarily who is on top.Somebody explain this to me. I'm gonna tag @BeExcellent and @Sega Genesis in on this one.
I've got a girl I matched with on a dating app who I then number-closed through Instagram that I'm supposed to meet with tomorrow up in Philly. We've been chatting back-and-forth for the past few days; she's been sending me dirty pics, and it's looking like all green lights.
However...we are texting right this moment; the conversation is getting a little explicit. She'd mentioned that she's into some kinky stuff, along with some "power dynamic" stuff, and asked if I liked "dominant women". I didn't think much of it...but now she's telling me to "behave" and that she wants me on my knees, sending me a reel on Instagram of some dude with a bunch of captions like "yes mommy".
I don't know how committed she is to this specific bit, and I can play the game a LITTLE bit if that's something she's into, but that's just really unnatural behavior for me, and I'm trying to grasp how that can be something she likes. Because most women want to be led, provided for, protected, dominated, etc. When she takes on that role and the man is in the submissive role, how can she respect that or be attracted to that?
Is that the point? Like a humiliation thing?
As far as background context, she works as a bottle/shot girl, is very attractive, and has a poor relationship with her father (her parents are divorced). I know that information probably explains some of this, but I don't understand how a dynamic could exist where the woman is attracted to her man when she occasionally treats him like a pu**y.
EDIT: I'm gonna tag @Hal9000 cus I know he knows his sh** and I see he's back.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
or challenge yourself to become a stronger person and let it not effect you. You will never be able to hide from the idiots. Take what works/fits and ignore the rest.I should just stick to messaging the people whose opinions I value directly at this point...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.