Women that chase men

[CornbreadFed]

This is why I refuse to chase women because I am aware of how women treat men they are attracted to. I get hit on 1-5 times a week by random women. Sometimes it’s subtle..sometimes it’s obvious. What’s funny is that they will be bold enough to do it in front of my woman in plain sight. My pretty boy friends experience this on a completely different level too which is unfair haha. Furthermore, I think @BeExcellent is being outright mendacious about not approaching men and @Bigpapa is too chronologically online based on his argument.

This is the true black/red pill, not getting your feelings hurt from a meanie girl. Women are fearful of the average man figuring this out because this is akin to the players finding out that the system is fixed. Women do not want to lose their simp jewel that provides them attention, resources, and status.

 

[Bigpapa]

This is why I refuse to chase women because I am aware of how women treat men they are attracted to. I get hit on 1-5 times a week by random women.

a woman smiling or making eye contact does not mean that a woman is hitting on you

by how you frame things, more or less we should also consider girls that make eye contact as the guy already slept with the girl

 

[CornbreadFed]

a woman smiling or making eye contact does not mean that a woman is hitting on you

by how you frame things, more or less we should also consider girls that make eye contact as the guy already slept with the girl

I said sometimes it’s subtle and sometimes it’s obvious. I’m not good looking enough to have random women meet me and try and fvck me the same day, but I have a few friends that possess that privilege. They don’t go to the gym or have money, but they are pretty boys. In addition, I have a few doctor friends and all they have to say is that they are a doctor and women become instantly glued to them.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Since @Gamisch tagged me, I'll chime in.

A soft smile and/or subtle eye contact are IOIs not direct hits.

When I used to go to clubs and singles events (I'm currently in a RL) and a particular man caught my eye and I felt a certain "pull," I'd give such non-verbal IOIs, a "window" so to speak and he would approach.

Not always often times I didn't need to and he would randomly approach, but the downside of that was I was typically not interested in those guys.

@tksniper has some great posts discussing 'windows' women can open ever so slightly so men feel more confident approaching especially very beautiful women. Subtle IOIs.

IF after talking for a bit and it's obvious we're clicking and vibing, there was/is NO need for me to say a word; he knew my interest and attraction based on my body language, the way I look at him, talk to him, mirror him, etc. And I knew/felt HIS attraction for me as well for same reason.

Most communication being non-verbal and all.

When I am extremely attracted to a man, all this is subconscious, instinctive and very difficult to try and hide! I am blond and fair-skinned and have even been known to blush! LOL Which was always a dead giveaway but the guy loved it and would move forward with his pursuit .

I am and never was into playing a "make him guess" or "he needs to 'work' for me" or "hard to get" game.

My personality is naturally elusive, a bit guarded and a mystery to many men on its own! Which I'm working to resolve (even with my bf), so why in the world would I want or need to play those silly coy, aloof, make him chase me games and make it more difficult for him?

Once we begin dating and I feel safer emotionally, I have no problem initiating from time to time. My feeling is we are in this together. As such we both make effort and show interest. In different ways.

I am not sure I agree with the stance "men are hunters who pursue their prey." I know what BE meant but even so IMO wild animals quietly stalk and hunt prey.

Men are human beings with emotions and sometimes especially around a beautiful woman, in my experience they can feel nervous and uncertain, even a bit vulnerable and for ME, I like and prefer that type of man.

Versus the aggressive, bold, overly confident and c0cky type of man who believe women are their prey that need to be hunted and captured at any cost. They disregard signals indicating lack of interest or even the woman having a boyfriend or with another man.

I have been with those types and while they had a certain appeal when I was younger (early-mid 20s), I find them overbearing and even disingenuous now (30s). A turn.off.

I find a little nervousness and vulnerability endearing and more genuine and tend to trust it more.

A combination of alpha and beta, with a bit more alpha but certainly at least some beta.

Anyway...

To each her own, we are ALL different in wants, needs and desires.

$.02

 

[zekko]

Men are hunters. Think about that. Hunting requires effort, tactics, stealth to catch prey.
If the prey comes and lays down before you saying "Pick me!" "Pick me!!" it is defective.
Like might have rabies defective...

Women aren't exempt from doing some hunting themselves, especially if they see a high value target. Or maybe they're more like trappers, setting snares and bait. But if they chase anything that moves, yeah that's a red flag.

 

[Velasco]

Women aren't exempt from doing some hunting themselves, especially if they see a high value target. Or maybe they're more like trappers, setting snares and bait.

ah yeah that’s very true. hunters typically use bait to lure in wild animals they want to kill. fvck in this instance for girls lol. i wrote a report a while ago about this girl from work that came to me to protect her from this guy who was stalking her and she was scared of. we had never spoken up until this moment. i always could feel that she liked me but i never went out of my way to strike a conversation with her. so she used this “stalker” opportunity to isolate me (i would have to walk her to her car after work each day at night in case the stalker dude would show up in the parking lot. then this turned to her offering me a ride to my house since i didn’t drive. and then from all that time in isolation, a fvckbuddy relationship developed).

 

[BeExcellent]

Nothing in my content in over ten years here is "mendacious", which means, for those who do not know, deceitful in nature or of deceitful character. My content arises from my own life experience and from the observations of others and from related wisdom and experience of people I know.

I said that I am open to others. I really don't "chase men". I was raised from childhood that ladies do not "chase men", and not to call boys. Of course I had crushes on a couple of boys in junior high school, and I didn't necessarily like or believe that and so twice I called boys who I had a crush on. In both cases the conversations were awkward and unnatural. I was disappointed, obviously, but those outcomes reinforced what the older generation in my family had taught me. So I learned not to initiate. A man who has interest will let you know. This has never failed me and has saved me lots of time and hurt.

I grew up to be a beautiful woman, and have always had the luxury (and it is a luxury) of having many men show interest in me, including very handsome/desirable men. So all I needed to be was receptive, and the guys make their interest known. That should not be any surprise at all because men value beauty first typically, and everything else later.

I learned to pick from men who are choosing me. Sure I might see a very attractive man, but if he doesn't make an effort toward me, I assume he is not interested, and I forget about him. I had too many good choices who were interested, it is a fool's errand to waste time on a man who isn't interested. Again, waste of time, and I value my time.

So don't expect women to chase you. Be the man and initiate.