Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
in your personal experience, give accurate example.. im not sure if you failed a test like this before or past in the past but, yeah give example. tnxslaog said:Yes women do test you to see the real you. Actions speak louder than words.
Effort, basically women want to see you're real personality and not believe everything you tell them. They want to see are you acting or really genuine.
For instance you might come across as being a bad boy so women need to find out if you're the real deal of some AFC putting on a show. They'll say things to test you and see if you really need the women and how you react when things go wrong or for instance when they threaten to leave. Also when they behave badly they're seeing how you respond.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've been with many girls and have approached infinitely more.619joe said:Lets say you game a girl really well and she asks if your a pickup artist.
There are many ways they test you. Basically they'll say something that they know you don't want to hear and see how you will react. Do you get upset, lose your cool, beg for forgiveness etc or are you above all that.verysuave said:in your personal experience, give accurate example.. im not sure if you failed a test like this before or past in the past but, yeah give example. tnx
I have noticed this but there is no "real me" cause i have a dynamic adaptive personality.. it takes an advanced female to understand that.verysuave said:so, what is this "REAL YOU" you guys claim? lets clarify this with examples
some guys here, are use the basic rules when it comes to dating/dealing with women and women test them to see the "REAL THEM"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.