"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women talk crap if you don't look at them right

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Situation, you walking down a street, and notice a pair of women walking your way. If both didn't have acne face they'd be HB6 and HB7. You look at them and away, as if not interested. Naturally not interested, not something done on purpose. The one says to the other some kind of crap, like that guy is ....

So if you diss them, if you don't give them what they want, they lower you in standing to treat their ego right.

Animals.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've seen girls go from being the most beautiful girl I ever saw to being just average - and back. Or you can be talking to a woman 30 years older and she'll be hurt if you look at another woman. We need to treat all women as if they are the most beautiful girl we know. For them, if we tell them they aren't pretty it is to tell them they won't survive.
 

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backseatjuan said:
Situation, you walking down a street, and notice a pair of women walking your way. If both didn't have acne face they'd be HB6 and HB7. You look at them and away, as if not interested. Naturally not interested, not something done on purpose. The one says to the other some kind of crap, like that guy is ....

So if you diss them, if you don't give them what they want, they lower you in standing to treat their ego right.

Animals.

People do that literally all the time. They lower other people just to feed their own ego.

Why would you even care about that ? I'd probably get a good laugh out of it.
 

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Well I don't care, I just went to bank and on my way saw that, then drank some beer and browsed some site and come to sosuave, and wrote what came to mind lol.
 

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it's all about security, when you look down on them they get insecure, so to make up for that, they bring you down to a lower level

i've noticed the same thing.
at work there was this say HB6 who always had these satellite boys running around her..anyway i was just not into her cuz ,so these guys they get rejected one after another while this cvnt goes up the b!tch scale thinking she should be worshiped by every man...
one day i hear her tell the girls "switch is just an as$hole , bet he is a desperate virgin blah blah blah "
*sigh* women
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bigneil said:
We need to treat all women as if they are the most beautiful girl we know.
An interesting comment. Do you think this is true? A lot of pickup advice seems to be centered around the idea of conveying ideas like "I'm not that impressed with you. You're pretty, but that doesn't make you special, what else do you have to offer? You're pretty, but there are hotter women - wow, look at that hot woman over there. You have some appearance flaws and I'm going to neg you about them. You're pretty, but I'm used to being around a lot more beautiful girls than you.".

I tend to waver back and forth about what the best approach is to take. On one hand, if a girl is particularly attractive, I will often try to pretend I don't even notice her beauty. On the other hand, sometimes you can compliment a girl on her appearance and you can just see her glow about it, and maybe get all redfaced and bashful.

Sometimes, you can share your attraction (like in the way you look at her), and it will be returned to you. Sometimes, acting like you are above her beauty will make you seem more attractive to her (like you're unobtainable). I think it's one of those paradoxical things - both are true at once, or in different situations.
 
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