"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women taking forever to respond to emails

The_Becoming

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When replying on match it filters out your e-mail address and replaces it with "[email protected]"... instead of putting "[email protected]", instead put "yourname AT hotmail.com" the filter doesn't filter this out and if the girl has half a brain she can surmise that AT = @ and then e-mail at no cost to her.

I actually had a woman reply to me that she's recieved dozens and dozens of e-mails but I was the only guy in her words "smart enough to include my e-mail address." And just my luck she was a girl "cheap enough" not to pay for the services.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Match.com sucks for this very reason. At least with www.cupid.com even if you don't pay, if someone emails you, you CAN respond without having to pay. I would advise anyone who uses match.com to cancel their membership and include the reason as them not allowing paying members to include their main email address or at least allowing free replies. If you pay, they should NOT be allowed to filter any part of your email. Join cupid.com instead. It is advertised nationally on the radio, has just as many members and you'll get more responses.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Match.com sucks for this very reason. At least with www.cupid.com even if you don't pay, if someone emails you, you CAN respond without having to pay. I would advise anyone who uses match.com to cancel their membership and include the reason as them not allowing paying members to include their main email address or at least allowing free replies. If you pay, they should NOT be allowed to filter any part of your email. Join cupid.com instead. It is advertised nationally on the radio, has just as many members and you'll get more responses.
That's easy for a woman to say, because 90% of the time it's the man approacing the woman. Whether it's match.com or cupid I'd still have to pay to communicate with a female on the system.

I once setup a female account on match.com using a pic I found on the net. I mean the girl was so so, not super hot but not super ugly. I was stunned by the quantity of messages I got from men over the next few days. Next I setup a male account using a really HOT guy's picture thinking I would get just as many messages. I got barely any. Goes to show who does the approaching. :)

-Al
 

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Originally posted by Albion4
That's easy for a woman to say, because 90% of the time it's the man approacing the woman. Whether it's match.com or cupid I'd still have to pay to communicate with a female on the system.

I once setup a female account on match.com using a pic I found on the net. I mean the girl was so so, not super hot but not super ugly. I was stunned by the quantity of messages I got from men over the next few days. Next I setup a male account using a really HOT guy's picture thinking I would get just as many messages. I got barely any. Goes to show who does the approaching. :)

-Al
Yes, you'll have to pay...but paying on match.com, you get sh*t and they filter your outgoing mail. Most women won't pay for dating services. I never did and never would. If you're going to pay you should pay on a site that actually allows all women you contact to write back. Match.com ONLY lets you respond if you pay, too. I don't care if the guy is amazing. I still would NOT pay to answer him...period.
 
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